Couples sex toys can add a lot to your sex life, but what about your relationship? While some couples find introducing sex toys into the bedroom intimidating, others look to sex toys for couples as the surefire way to heat things up in bed. But what does added pleasure do for your bond? Turns out, a lot.
When sex toy company We-Vibe launched the We-Vibe Classic, a sex toy that allows couples to enjoy it together and apart, thanks to an app that can be downloaded to your phone, the tide of sex toys changed. And now, they’ve added a new one to the mix: Sync. Sync is the world’s first adjustable couples vibrator. This, of course, is great news because, as we all know, when it comes to body parts, one size doesn’t exactly fit all.
Sync’s design allows the user to customize the product to fit in order to achieve both clitoral and vaginal stimulation. Because you’re in control of making Sync fit just right for you and your partner, the company says the product will be able to stay in place no matter the sex position you choose, or if you change from one position to the next. And, like their other couples products, the We-Connect app lets partners play when they’re apart; even a world apart. Sync also lets you vibe to the rhythm of your favorite music, because who hasn’t wanted to feel the vibration of Neutral Milk Hotel between their legs?
To celebrate the launch of Sync, We-Vibe recently conducted a study of 1,000 men and women, between the ages of 35 and 55, to see how sex toys affect their relationships and what they want more of in the bedroom. Here’s what they found.
The Majority Of People Use Sex Toys To keep Their Sex Life Spicy
According to the study, 82 percent of those surveyed make a valiant effort to keep their sex life as exciting as possible. You can’t stick to one or two positions forever and not start to get a little bored. That’s where toys, for 52 percent of couples, come in to save the day.
Almost 50 Percent Of People Are Using Sex Toys To Liven Up Their Sex Lives
Not that you should be super surprised, because sex toys are more mainstream than ever, but the study found that 45 percent of people incorporate toys into their sex life to keep things exciting, which is great news! Not just for the sex toy industry, of course, but because toys really do enhance pleasure and sexual exploration.
Using Vibrators Make Couples Communicate More
Of those who participated in the study, 49 percent of couples who use vibrators report communicating often, whether it be about sex or other subjects. In contrast, of those who don’t use vibrators, only 29 percent of couples could report the same level of openness and communication.
Couples Who Use Sex Toys Are Better At Giving Direction To Their Partners
In addition to communicating, when it comes to great sex, couples also need to be able to give direction. Twenty-nine percent of couples who use vibrators have zero qualms about giving their partner directions in bed. As for those who don’t use vibrators, only 17 percent are able to comfortably guide their partners in the right direction.
Just The Act Of Buying A Sex Toy May Increase Communication
According to the study, buying a sex toy — any type of sex toy — is connected with more communication between partners. I mean, if you’re making the purchase together, you do need to be pretty open about what you want and what you don’t want. The survey found that 51 percent of those who bought sex toys talk “often” or “very often” about sex, whereas only 28 percent of those who have not bought a sex toy could attest to communicating about sex.
Most Couples Rely On New Positions To Keep Sex Exciting
Although there are those couples (52 percent) who will throw sex toys into the mix to keep things spicy, most just stick to new sex positions. According to the study, 77 percent of couples try to make sex “more exciting” by trying different positions.
The Minority Of Couples Felt Their Sex Lives Could Be Improved
For 38 percent of respondents, more sex would make their sex lives better. But for those who were content with the amount of sex they were having, what they really wanted was change and better quality sex. Of those surveyed 28 percent wanted better sex with their partner and 28 percent wanted to “change” sex with their partner. As for what that “change” was, (although it might be safe to assume it was to make it more exciting), the respondents didn’t say.
Over 60 Percent Of Couples Think More Foreplay Is The Way To Go
For 62 percent of couples, the most exciting way to make things more fun in the bedroom is by extending foreplay. Although the study didn’t say how long these couples are focusing on foreplay (although let’s really hope for at least 30 minutes), the fact is that foreplay is getting the attention it deserves. Finally.
Many foods have been touted for their ability to boost sex drive, but only a few are supported by scientific research.
By Alina Petre, MS, RD / Authority Nutrition
An aphrodisiac is defined as a food or drug that arouses sexual instinct, brings on desire or increases sexual pleasure or performance.
Naturally, aphrodisiacs are a hot topic, as evidenced by the myriad of pharmaceutical drugs available and marketed specifically for their libido-boosting effects.
However, some individuals prefer natural alternatives, as they are generally safer and tend to have fewer side effects.
This article reviews 7 science-backed aphrodisiacs that can boost your libido.
1 – Maca
Maca is a sweet root vegetable with several health benefits.
In South America it’s commonly used to boost fertility, even going by the nickname “the Peruvian Viagra.”
It grows predominantly in the mountains of central Peru and is related to cruciferous vegetables including broccoli, cauliflower, kale and cabbage.
Maca is one of the few popular natural aphrodisiacs that’s actually backed by science.
Animal studies report increases in libido and erectile function in mice and rats fed maca.
And maca seems to have libido-boosting effects in humans too. Four high-quality studies reported that participants experienced enhanced sexual desire after they consumed maca.
Furthermore, a small study suggests that maca may help reduce the loss of libido that’s commonly experienced as a side effect of certain antidepressant drugs.
Most studies provided 1.5–3.5 grams of maca per day for 2–12 weeks.
Participants generally tolerated these intakes well and experienced few side effects. However, more studies are needed to determine safe dosages and long-term effects.
Summary: Maca is a sweet root vegetable that may help boost libido.
2 – Tribulus
Tribulus terrestris, also known as bindii, is an annual plant that grows in dry climates.
It is commonly used to help improve athletic performance, infertility and loss of libido.
This supplement is also backed by some science. Animal studies report increased sperm production in rats given Tribulus supplements.
Another study found 88% of women with sexual dysfunction experienced increased sexual satisfaction after taking 250 mg of Tribulus per day for 90 days.
Additionally, a group of researchers examined the effect of Tribulus in women with sexual dysfunction by giving them 7.5 mg of the extract per day.
After four weeks, the women given Tribulus reported significantly higher levels of desire, arousal, lubrication and orgasm satisfaction.
That said, more research is needed to evaluate optimal dosing, as well as the effects of Tribulus supplements in men.
Summary: The Tribulus terrestris plant may have aphrodisiac effects in women. More research is needed to evaluate optimal doses of Tribulus, as well as its effects in men.
3 – Ginkgo biloba
Ginkgo biloba is an herbal supplement derived from one of the oldest species of trees — the Ginkgo biloba tree.
It’s popular in traditional Chinese medicine as a treatment for many ailments, including depression and poor sexual function.
Ginkgo biloba is said to act as an aphrodisiac by helping relax blood vessels and increase blood flow.
Nevertheless, studies have produced mixed results.
For example, one small study reports that ginkgo biloba reduced the loss of libido caused by antidepressant use in around 84% of participants.
Both male and female participants said they experienced increased desire, excitement and ability to orgasm after consuming 60–120 mg of the supplement daily, although effects seemed stronger in female participants.
However, a follow-up study noted no improvements in a similar group of participants who took ginkgo biloba.
Ginkgo biloba is generally well tolerated, but it may act as a blood thinner. Thus, if you’re taking blood-thinning medications, make sure to check with your health care professional before taking ginkgo biloba.
Summary: Ginkgo biloba may have aphrodisiac effects, but study results are inconsistent. The herb may also interact with blood thinners, so consult your health care practitioner before using it.
4 – Red ginseng
Ginseng is another popular herb in Chinese medicine.
One particular type — red ginseng — is commonly used to treat a variety of ailments in men and women, including low libido and sexual function.
Several studies have investigated its use in men and observed that red ginseng was at least twice as effective as the placebo at improving erectile function.
Also, one small study in menopausal women found that red ginseng may improve sexual arousal.
However, these results are not universal. Moreover, some experts question the strength of these studies and warn that more research is needed before strong conclusions can be made.
One study had participants take 1.4–3 grams of red ginseng daily for 4–12 weeks.
This and another study found that people generally tolerate ginseng well, but it may interfere with blood-thinning medications and the treatment of hormone-sensitive cancers.
In some cases, ginseng may also cause headaches, constipation or minor stomach upset.
Summary: Red ginseng is a popular herb that may help boost sex drive and erectile function in men and sexual arousal in women. However, stronger studies are needed to confirm these effects.
5 – Fenugreek
Fenugreek is an annual plant cultivated worldwide.
Its seeds are most commonly used in South Asian dishes, but it’s also popular in Ayurvedic medicine as an anti-inflammatory, libido-boosting treatment.
And perhaps this is for good reason — this herb appears to contain compounds that the body can use to make sex hormones, such as estrogen and testosterone.
In one small study, men given 600 mg of fenugreek extract per day for six weeks reported experiencing increased sexual arousal and more orgasms.
Similarly, a small study investigated the effects of a daily dose of 600 mg of fenugreek extract in women who had reported having a low sex drive.
It observed a significant increase in sexual desire and arousal in the fenugreek group by the end of the eight-week study, compared to the placebo group.
Fenugreek is generally well tolerated, but can interact with blood-thinning medication and may cause minor stomach upset.
Moreover, due to its influence on sex hormones, fenugreek may also interfere with the treatment of hormone-sensitive cancers.
Summary: Fenugreek may help boost sexual desire and arousal in both men and women. Individuals taking blood-thinning medication should avoid it.
6 – Pistachio nuts
People have been eating pistachio nuts since 6,000 BC.
They are quite nutritious and particularly rich in protein, fiber and healthy fats.
Pistachios may have a variety of health benefits, including helping lower blood pressure, control weight and reduce the risk of heart disease.
Moreover, they may also help reduce symptoms of erectile dysfunction.
In one small study, men who consumed 3.5 ounces (100 grams) of pistachio nuts per day for three weeks experienced increased blood flow to the penis and firmer erections.
Experts have suggested these effects may be due to the ability of pistachios to improve blood cholesterol and stimulate better blood flow throughout the body.
However, this study did not use a placebo group, which makes it difficult to interpret the results. More studies are needed before strong conclusions can be made.
Summary: Pistachio nuts appear to increase blood flow, contributing to firmer erections. However, more studies are needed before strong conclusions can be made.
7 – Saffron
Saffron is a spice derived from the Crocus sativus flower. It is native to Southwest Asia and one of the most expensive spices by weight.
This spice is often used as an alternative remedy to help treat depression, reduce stress and enhance mood.
What’s more, saffron is also popular for its potential aphrodisiac properties, especially in individuals taking antidepressants.
One study observed that a group of men given 30 mg of saffron per day for four weeks experienced greater improvements in erectile function than men given a placebo.
A follow-up study in women reported that those in the saffron group experienced higher levels of arousal and increased lubrication, compared to those in the placebo group.
Nevertheless, studies on saffron’s aphrodisiac properties in individuals not suffering from depression yield inconsistent results.
Summary: Saffron may help increase sex drive in individuals taking antidepressant medications. However, results in other groups remain mixed.
Well-Known Aphrodisiac Foods That Are Not Backed by Strong Scientific Evidence
Several other foods are touted to have aphrodisiac properties. However, their libido-boosting effects are often supported by very little scientific evidence.
Here are some of the most popular of these questionable foods:
Chocolate: Compounds in cacao are often touted to have an aphrodisiac effect, particularly in women. However, studies provide little evidence to support this very popular belief
Oysters: While one study reports that they may have some libido-boosting effects in rats, no studies exist to support the libido-enhancing properties of oysters in humans
Chasteberry: Studies suggest that this fruit may influence hormone levels and reduce premenstrual syndrome (PMS) symptoms in women. However, there is no evidence that it offers any libido-boosting benefits
Honey: It has allegedly been used for centuries to bring romance into marriages. One variety called “mad honey” is even marketed as a sexual stimulant. Yet, no studies support this, and it may contain dangerous toxins
Epimedium: Also known as horny goat weed, it’s popular in traditional Chinese medicine for treating ailments like erectile dysfunction. Cell and animal studies provide some early support for this use, but human studies are needed
Hot chilies: According to popular belief, capsaicin, the compound that gives hot chilies their spiciness, stimulates nerve endings on the tongue, causing the release of sex drive-boosting chemicals. However, no studies support this belief.
Alcohol: Alcohol may act as an aphrodisiac by helping both men and women relax and get in the mood. However, heavy drinking may actually reduce arousal and sexual function, so moderation is key
Summary: The supplements listed above are often said to help increase sexual desire. However, there is currently limited scientific evidence to support their use as aphrodisiacs.
The Bottom Line
When it comes to boosting sex drive, the list of foods with potential aphrodisiac properties is very long.
However, only a small proportion of these supposed aphrodisiacs are actually backed by science.
If you’re interested in giving the science-backed options a try, you may want to start with small amounts and increase the dosage based on your personal tolerance.
Also, it’s important to note that natural aphrodisiacs may interact with some medications.
If you’re currently taking medication, make sure to check with your health care provider before giving these foods and herbs a try.
Classics don’t become classics by accident. They become classics because they’re among the best—because they’re tried, true and reliable.
This holds true for classic sex positions, for sure. They’re the standards, the foundations of sexual bliss that have been around for millennia. People have been enjoying them forever, because their ability to bring the pleasure is proven and perpetual.
And while there is certainly plenty to be said about trying new things and getting a little bit wild with the positions you and your partner try out and adopt as mainstays, it’s important to not forget about these several classic positions.
1 – Missionary
Missionary is a great way to both start and end sex, and it’s probably the best position there is for engaging in eye contact, which can be one of the most arousing and intimate things you and your partner can engage in during sex. It’s also a great position for kissing while thrusting, if you’re coordinated enough. Additionally, if you’re the woman, missionary can give you a break while the guy does some of the work, and you can just lie back and concentrate on pure, unadulterated enjoyment.
2 – Cowgirl
If you think about it, cowgirl has a lot of the benefits of missionary. It’s great for eye contact and kissing, and it’s an opportunity for the man to take a break and lie back. (Additionally, many men tend to last longer and are able to delay orgasm for a bit if the woman is on top.) It also grants an amazing breast view, and easy access for breast and nipple stimulation.
3 – Doggie
Well, this one is admittedly not great for eye contact (unless you’re both facing a mirror, which, to be honest, takes things to a whole different level and is absolutely worth a shot). For women, the angle when a guy is behind you can result in deeper penetration in comparison with lots of other positions. And for guys? Well, it’s simple: you get to look at a beautiful butt. It’s also (arguable) the best position for hair-pulling, if that’s something you and your partner are into.
4 – Sixty-Nine
You should never forget about foreplay, and the Sixty-Nine position is great for oral and manual pleasure. It just makes sense. Why wouldn’t you want to get while you give, and give while you get? And Sixty-Nining isn’t just a great foreplay method. It’s also a great breather for you and your partner during a sex session—a nice interstitial between penetrative positions.
Sex toys are awesome and an excellent addition to your sex life, both solo and with a partner.
But sex toys also become a lot less awesome if you don’t care for them properly.
Not washing your toy, using the wrong lube, or storing it incorrectly can all lead to problems, whether that’s a shorter life span or distortion of your toy or a risk of an infection for you. Which, no thanks. BuzzFeed Life talked to Claire Cavanah, co-founder of Babeland and co-author of Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex, for her best tips for keeping your sex toys safe, in good shape, and running as long as possible.
A quick note: Many sex toys come with cleaning instructions, so make sure to look out for anything unique to your toy that these tips might not cover.
1 – Wash your toys after every use
Yep, even if you’re only using it on yourself and not sharing with a partner. Toys that are washed every time last longer. If you don’t, the material can degrade or become discolored, says Cavanah. That, and if an unwashed toy is stored with other toys, it can contaminate them with bacteria.
2 – If you want to be really safe, wash your toys before every use, too.
“They can come in contact with lint, pet hair, or other bacteria while they’re stored and then if you insert them, that goes into your body,” says Cavanah. But if you store your toys correctly (which is covered later in this post), this is just a precaution you can choose to take.
3 – Choose the right soap.
Cavanah suggests using a mild, unscented hand or dish soap — and no need to go with the antibacterial option. “It might seem like a good precaution, but they can leave a residue,” she says.
If you want a more discreet option (like if you live with roommates and don’t want to haul your sex toys to the bathroom every time you use them), you can also go for a toy cleaner, like Before & After Toy Cleaner. “It’s a liquid formula that you spray on the toy and wipe off that neutralizes bacteria and won’t harm the material,” says Cavanah.
4 – Don’t submerge any battery-operated toys in water to wash.
If your toy has batteries, plugs into the wall, or buzzes in any way, you have to take extra precautions. Wiping it down with a warm, soap washcloth is all you need to do.
5 – OK, now figure out what material your sex toy is.
Obviously, the world of sex toys is vast and varied, so this article is concentrating mostly on vibrators, dildos, plugs, beads…basically anything that can go inside you.
These toys come in a ton of different materials, but can be divided into two categories: porous and nonporous.
Nonporous toys are ones that can be safely shared because their surfaces are impenetrable by bacteria — common nonporous materials are glass, Pyrex, silicone, and stainless steel.
Porous toys, on the other hand, are made from materials like hard plastic, cyberskin, elastomer, jelly rubber, nylon, and neoprene, and are more absorbent.
No need to guess what material your toy is. It should say right on the package (or if you’ve already tossed that, on the manufacturer’s website).
6 -Here’s how to clean your nonporous toys.
Silicone: Wash with soap and water or place it in the top rack of your dishwasher. You can also put it in boiling water for 10 minutes to disinfect it.
Glass: Wash with soap and water, and don’t expose it to extreme temperatures (like in the dishwasher), to avoid warping.
Pyrex: Pyrex is basically heat-resistant glass, so it can be boiled, put in the dishwasher, or washed by hand.
Stainless steel: Boil for 10 minutes, soak in bleach and water (then make sure to RINSE THOROUGHLY), or wash in the dishwasher.
7 – Here’s how to clean your porous toys.
Porous materials are more sensitive to temperature and prone to warping, so most should be washed the same way: with soap and warm water, either in the sink or with a soapy washcloth. Nylon toys are the exception, which can be machine washed.
Again, porous materials are hard plastic, cyberskin, nylon, neoprene, jelly rubber, vinyl and soft vinyl, acrylic, elastomer, and leather.
8 – Make sure you’re using the right lube.
Don’t use silicone- or oil-based lubes with silicone toys, says Cavanah, because it will stick to the material and break down the surface of your toy. Go with water-based or hybrid lube instead — but still always make sure to wash it off afterward (but you’re already doing that anyway, right?)
9 – Use a condom with your porous toys.
Some porous toys can’t be completely disinfected, so you should always use a condom when using it with a partner, says Cavanah. If you’re only using your toy on yourself, you should be fine as long as you wash it after every use.
10 – Always check to make sure your waterproof vibrators are still safe to use.
If the little rubber plug or O-ring that covers the battery compartment of your toy is missing, loose, or broken, no more shower fun for you. Sorry! That thing is no longer waterproof.
11 – Look out for any irregularities that might signal it’s time to throw out your toy.
Sadly, even the best sex toys don’t last forever. “If the motor gets louder, it’s a sign that the toy is getting to the end or if the charge isn’t lasting as long,” says Cavanah. Also look out for seams coming apart or pockmarks in your silicone toys, since that means it’s no longer nonporous. RIP.
12 – Don’t just toss them in your bedside drawer and call it a day.
Who knows what dust, food crumbs, and other junk is lurking in there? Cavanah suggests storing your toys wrapped in cloth or in a cloth bag (luckily, many toys come with their own dust bags, so don’t throw them out). Once you do that, your drawer is totally fine (and definitely preferable to somewhere like under your bed, says Cavanah).
You do want to avoid using Tupperware or plastic bags, though. “Chemicals can leach into the toy over an extended period of time,” she says.
13 – Take the batteries out of your vibrator when you’re not using it.
Leaving the batteries in can actually corrode the toy and drain the battery life, since they’re conducting at a low charge when in the toy. And there’s nothing sadder than the halfhearted buzz of a vibrator on low batteries.
Takeaway:Intercourse often doesn’t lead to orgasm for women. That’s where couples’ vibes come in.
You’ve probably heard some variation of this sad statistic: Only 25 percent of women consistently orgasm during vaginal intercourse.
Let’s put that out there again: Only one in four women reliably experience orgasm during vaginal intercourse, regardless of partner’s penis size, or how long the sex lasts, or even how a woman feels about her partner. And this isn’t according to just one study either; the figure comes from a comprehensive analysis of 33 studies over the past 80 years, which was conducted by Elisabeth Lloyd for “The Case of the Female Orgasm.”
But while that may go against what many of us were raised to believe about partnered, heterosexual intercourse, those who have a firm grasp of female anatomy and sexual function understand full well what it takes to get a girl off. According to experts, clitoral stimulation is what the vast majority of women need to push them over the edge.
Of course, intercourse isn’t the only kind of sex out there. Hands and mouths are both great for pleasing female bodies. So, of course, are vibrators. And that’s where a relatively new breed of vibrator comes in: couples’ vibes. They are designed to make intercourse explosively pleasurable for both partners. Because when it comes to skin-on-skin contact and intimacy, intercourse definitely has a few fun perks. Here are seven things to know about these unique toys.
They Come in Many Shapes, Sizes and Types
A lot of vibrators are great for couples’ play. You can add a wand vibrator, or a simple clitoral vibrator during partner play, or even during intercourse as long as you’re in a position to fit it between you and your partner.
The vibes we often refer to as couples’ vibes, however, are designed to be worn during intercourse for both partners’ pleasure. Although vibrating cock rings fit into this category (and many couples love them!), the main contenders here are c-shaped, wearable couples’ vibes like the We-Vibe Sync and LELO Tiani, among others. This type of vibe is designed to be worn inside a woman’s body, with one arm extending out to reach the clitoris. What this means is that not only can these vibrators be worn hands-free during intercourse, but that the male partner gets a buzz (in addition to a tighter fit).
They’re Designed to Hit the Clit
Couples’ vibrators are popular because they’re designed to stimulate the clitoris, which is just what many women need to be truly (and consistently) orgasmic during partnered intercourse. For many women, these toys can be a game-changer. The clitoris has at least 8,000 sensory nerve endings and is believed to extend deep into the pelvic area. It’s the queen of the orgasmic castle.
They Encourage Communication
Couples’ vibes are fairly easy to use, but because they provide some new sensations or challenges, ensuring that using one is pleasurable for both partners requires some communication.
Positioning the device, your partner and finding the right vibration setting will all take some experimentation. If you’re doing it right, you’ll probably chat, giggle and have fun with a few failed attempts. But isn’t that what great sex is all about?
They Aren’t Just for Women’s Pleasure
With all the vibrating toys available for women, it’s easy to assume that penises just don’t respond to vibration. That isn’t the case.
Many men enjoy vibration against the head of the penis, scrotum or shaft. In fact, research on vibrator use has found that almost half of men have tried a vibrator at least once. They’re even used to help men with sexual dysfunction. In other words, for many men, vibration can feel amaaazing! A couples’ vibrator provides a pleasurable buzz to the head of a man’s penis while it’s inserted. For some men, this will provide an additional (and unique) sensation to intercourse.
They’re Also Fun for One
Just because they’re marketed as couples’ vibes doesn’t mean you can’t use one solo. In fact, because of the way they fit into and against the body, a couples’ vibe can provide a hands-free orgasm. Most of the latest couples’ vibes are remote controlled; just use the remote to control the vibration setting and intensity, lay back, and enjoy the ride!
They’re Great for Foreplay
Thanks to the remote control that comes standard with most couples’ vibes today, the wearer can enjoy a discreet and sexy buzz from her partner from across a room. When it comes to titillating foreplay, this is about as good as it gets. For an extra thrill, try it in public.
They Make a Sexy Gift
If you’re looking to spice things up with a partner, a sex toy can make a great gift. Couples’ vibes offer pleasure to both partners, which makes them an excellent choice. But unlike jewelry, it’ll have both partners purring with pleasure.
As a relatively new type of vibrator, couples’ vibes offer a great option for couples who want to take intercourse to a whole new level. They’re fun, they’re unique and they’re sexy. Sounds like a recipe for a spicier sex life.
The key to finding sex toys you can travel with is to look for products that are discreet.
All of the products mentioned here can easily slip into a bag, making them a breeze to travel with. Most importantly, you won’t have to worry about getting flagged down at the airport so TSA can inspect that suspicious-looking dildo in your carry-on. And despite being small, these toys pack a powerful punch that will definitely make for a vacation you’ll never forget.
So, without further ado, here is a list of Dr. Emily Morse’s favorite toys that you can travel with:
Both of these toys are clitoral vibrators, but you can use them just about anywhere and it’ll feel amazing. The Tango is a strong little bullet, and the Touch is a vibe that contours to your hand. We-Vibe toys aren’t the least bit intimidating and are great as a gateway to exploring other toys in the bedroom. Both the Touch and the Tango can be a sexy way to tease your partner (male or female) during foreplay, and using it on your partner is the perfect way to warm him up to using it on you.
You wouldn’t even know that this little vibe was there if it weren’t for the incredible vibrations it gives off. You can wear the G-ring on your finger like a ring, and you can use it just about anywhere on the body for some seriously O-worthy pleasure. This is truly a subtly designed vibrator that you can take with you wherever you go. I actually have one in my purse right now!
The Quickshot is a go-to when it comes to a travel toy for him, and it will definitely help get your toy-cautious partner on board with trying new devices in bed. This toy is the number-one bestseller for guys, and he’ll feel like he’s getting a mind-blowing hand job without the actual hand.
This innovative little strap can transform your basic missionary position. It helps keep your legs elevated perfectly. Best of all? It’s made of up of simple nylon straps that you can fold up and stick in your suitcase or purse pocket.
This delicious water-based lube adds a tasty treat to your foreplay. All you need is one small (and discreet) bottle to cover everything from anal to intercourse.
These toys are some of my favorites and are great for dipping your toes into the pool of pleasure products. Plus, the G-ring, Touch, and Tango are rechargeable and waterproof, so don’t be afraid to get wet and wild in the shower, hot tub, or pool.
Summer can be the absolute worst for having sex. It’s hot, it’s sticky, and getting all close with another human can seem like the worst idea ever. Even if they’re sexy as hell, and you’re in the mood. But with a little creativity, there are lots of sex positions for summer that minimize body contact. So you can get your freak on without just wanting to push your partner away in a bout of sweaty, summer irritability.
Most of these positions are assuming that you don’t have a private pool or lake area to bone in, because if you do, you should take full advantage of that. No excuses. Just be careful and remember that water can rinse off your natural lubrication, so use a silicon-based lube for to stay wet and safe. Also make sure the AC is on full blast.
If you don’t have a pool, here are some simple summer sex positions, because really, who can do acrobatics in this heat?
1 – Doggy style.
Whether you’re going for penetration or oral, doing it from behind is the way to go. To minimize body contact, and get a good angle for penetration, get on all fours, and let your partner get at it. Adding a Doggie Style Strap can help with leverage.
2 – Shower sex.
Alright, shower sex can be controversial, since most of us don’t have Hollywood-style luxury showers, so there’s not a lot of room. But here’s the thing: Don’t have shower sex when someone is actually showering. After you come in from a long sweaty walk, turn on the water to cool (not freezing, unless you’re into that) and have standing sex in the shower. Just don’t slip. Check out the Sex in the Shower collection for some items like foot rests and handles to add to your safety and fun.
3 – Masturbate with each other.
If you are seriously that cranky and sweaty that you need to get way more turned on before you can make physical contact, just do you. Masturbating at the same time can be really hot, though it takes a certain level of confidence for some people. It’s also a good way to break the ice about showing your partner your favorite vibrator techniques to use in the future.
4 – A classic 69.
They call things classics for a reason. 69-ing is possibly the best summer sex position, because you don’t have to touch anything other than the area you’re working with. And someone is giving you oral, which is one of the better things this life on earth has to give us. To minimize the “work” part of this (and thus, lower your heart rate and body temp), you should both lay on your sides and go to town.
5 – Get sideways.
Some people call this the “Linguini,” which is fitting because in the middle of August, you basically feel like soggy pasta anyway. Lie on your side and have your partner (or you, if you like the top) get behind on one knee, for a better angle and support. Roll up on one of your butt cheeks and let your partner penetrate you with their penis, a dildo, or just rub up on each other in a sort of modified scissor. The idea is that you don’t have to rub up on any other body part here.
6 – Find the *right* spot.
If you can, try to sit on a cool countertop or the washing machine (it can be on or off, BTW). Your partner should stand and penetrate you or go down. Sure, they’re working hard. But you have a cool surface under your ass to regulate your body temp. And maybe next time, you can switch roles.
7 – Woman on top.
Sometimes climbing on top of the other person is the way to minimize getting all gross and sweaty. You can sit on top of your partner, and do whatever it is you like to do. If you have trouble being in control of the movement, try a “reverse cowgirl” (you just sit on a male partner backwards) in a chair, couch, or edge of the bed. That way, he can guide you a little bit until you guys find the right rhythm.
At the end of the day, summer sex is going to be a lot like sex any other time of year. Just sweatier.
7 sex positions for summer when it’s honestly too hot to touch another human body by Karen Fratti was originally posted on Hello Giggles.