13 Incredibly Useful Tips Everyone With Sex Toys Should Know


by Anna Borges

Takeaway: Scrub it before you buzz it.

Sex toys are awesome and an excellent addition to your sex life, both solo and with a partner.

But sex toys also become a lot less awesome if you don’t care for them properly.

Not washing your toy, using the wrong lube, or storing it incorrectly can all lead to problems, whether that’s a shorter life span or distortion of your toy or a risk of an infection for you. Which, no thanks. BuzzFeed Life talked to Claire Cavanah, co-founder of Babeland and co-author of Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex, for her best tips for keeping your sex toys safe, in good shape, and running as long as possible.

A quick note: Many sex toys come with cleaning instructions, so make sure to look out for anything unique to your toy that these tips might not cover.

1 – Wash your toys after every use

Yep, even if you’re only using it on yourself and not sharing with a partner. Toys that are washed every time last longer. If you don’t, the material can degrade or become discolored, says Cavanah. That, and if an unwashed toy is stored with other toys, it can contaminate them with bacteria.

2 – If you want to be really safe, wash your toys before every use, too.

“They can come in contact with lint, pet hair, or other bacteria while they’re stored and then if you insert them, that goes into your body,” says Cavanah. But if you store your toys correctly (which is covered later in this post), this is just a precaution you can choose to take.

3 – Choose the right soap.

Cavanah suggests using a mild, unscented hand or dish soap — and no need to go with the antibacterial option. “It might seem like a good precaution, but they can leave a residue,” she says.

If you want a more discreet option (like if you live with roommates and don’t want to haul your sex toys to the bathroom every time you use them), you can also go for a toy cleaner, like Before & After Toy Cleaner. “It’s a liquid formula that you spray on the toy and wipe off that neutralizes bacteria and won’t harm the material,” says Cavanah.

4 –  Don’t submerge any battery-operated toys in water to wash.

If your toy has batteries, plugs into the wall, or buzzes in any way, you have to take extra precautions. Wiping it down with a warm, soap washcloth is all you need to do.

5 – OK, now figure out what material your sex toy is.

Obviously, the world of sex toys is vast and varied, so this article is concentrating mostly on vibrators, dildos, plugs, beads…basically anything that can go inside you.

These toys come in a ton of different materials, but can be divided into two categories: porous and nonporous.

Nonporous toys are ones that can be safely shared because their surfaces are impenetrable by bacteria — common nonporous materials are glass, Pyrex, silicone, and stainless steel.

Porous toys, on the other hand, are made from materials like hard plastic, cyberskin, elastomer, jelly rubber, nylon, and neoprene, and are more absorbent.

No need to guess what material your toy is. It should say right on the package (or if you’ve already tossed that, on the manufacturer’s website).

6 -Here’s how to clean your nonporous toys.

Silicone: Wash with soap and water or place it in the top rack of your dishwasher. You can also put it in boiling water for 10 minutes to disinfect it.

Glass: Wash with soap and water, and don’t expose it to extreme temperatures (like in the dishwasher), to avoid warping.

Pyrex: Pyrex is basically heat-resistant glass, so it can be boiled, put in the dishwasher, or washed by hand.

Stainless steel: Boil for 10 minutes, soak in bleach and water (then make sure to RINSE THOROUGHLY), or wash in the dishwasher.

7 – Here’s how to clean your porous toys.

Porous materials are more sensitive to temperature and prone to warping, so most should be washed the same way: with soap and warm water, either in the sink or with a soapy washcloth. Nylon toys are the exception, which can be machine washed.

Again, porous materials are hard plastic, cyberskin, nylon, neoprene, jelly rubber, vinyl and soft vinyl, acrylic, elastomer, and leather.

8 – Make sure you’re using the right lube.

Don’t use silicone- or oil-based lubes with silicone toys, says Cavanah, because it will stick to the material and break down the surface of your toy. Go with water-based or hybrid lube instead — but still always make sure to wash it off afterward (but you’re already doing that anyway, right?)

9 – Use a condom with your porous toys.

Some porous toys can’t be completely disinfected, so you should always use a condom when using it with a partner, says Cavanah. If you’re only using your toy on yourself, you should be fine as long as you wash it after every use.

10 – Always check to make sure your waterproof vibrators are still safe to use.

If the little rubber plug or O-ring that covers the battery compartment of your toy is missing, loose, or broken, no more shower fun for you. Sorry! That thing is no longer waterproof.

11 – Look out for any irregularities that might signal it’s time to throw out your toy.

Sadly, even the best sex toys don’t last forever. “If the motor gets louder, it’s a sign that the toy is getting to the end or if the charge isn’t lasting as long,” says Cavanah. Also look out for seams coming apart or pockmarks in your silicone toys, since that means it’s no longer nonporous. RIP.

12 – Don’t just toss them in your bedside drawer and call it a day.

Who knows what dust, food crumbs, and other junk is lurking in there? Cavanah suggests storing your toys wrapped in cloth or in a cloth bag (luckily, many toys come with their own dust bags, so don’t throw them out). Once you do that, your drawer is totally fine (and definitely preferable to somewhere like under your bed, says Cavanah).

You do want to avoid using Tupperware or plastic bags, though. “Chemicals can leach into the toy over an extended period of time,” she says.

13 – Take the batteries out of your vibrator when you’re not using it.

Leaving the batteries in can actually corrode the toy and drain the battery life, since they’re conducting at a low charge when in the toy. And there’s nothing sadder than the halfhearted buzz of a vibrator on low batteries.

Happy (and safe) sex toy adventures, everyone!


13 Incredibly Useful Tips Everyone With Sex Toys Should Know by Anna Borges was originally published on BuzzFeed.

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Pheromone Power!


pher·o·mone  /ferəˌmōn/

“A chemical substance produced and released into the environment by an animal, especially a mammal or an insect, affecting the behavior or physiology of others of its species. From Greek pherein ‘convey’ + hormone.”

Pheromones are chemical scent signals your body produces that trigger a social response from others. They help draw people to you, and can even help others perceive you as attractive.

Pheromone-Infused products increase your naturally-occurring pheromone output to maximize your appeal!

Whether they really work or not is always the topic of debate. All I know is that when I wear something with pheromones, I get an extra boost in confidence, feel like I interact with others better, generally feel good about myself, and have a really REALLY great day.

There are tons of styles of pheromone products available, but today we’ll talk about my favorite scented pheromone perfumes and colognes. Because you now know what pheromones do and you most definitely know what perfume / cologne is, I’ll just let you know about the actual fragrances.


Pure Instinct Woman & Pure Instinct Man


For Her

  • Top Notes – Crisp bergamot, fresh lemon, and juicy tangerine.
  • Mid Notes – Jasmine petals and lily of the valley in a rich, unique, and dynamic blend
  • Dry Notes – Sensual musk, sandalwood, cedarwood, and patchouli envelope rich amber and sweet vanilla to complete the fragrance.

For Him

  • Top Notes – Natural bergamot and Italian lemon blended with Mandarin
  • Mid notes – Crisp Venezuelan geranium, pineapple , mint, rose, crisp apple, and natural cypress.
  • Dry notes – Creamy sandalwood, warm mossy vanilla accord, along with vetiver, ceaderwood, and Tonka Bean


Max Attract (for Him)


Available in 2 Fragrances:

  • Renegade: An edgy, masculine fragrance with attitude! Spice accord of Bergamont blends with Cardamom,  Armoise, Basil, Lavandin, citrus, and Juniper Berry. Dry notes of sensual musk, cedar wood warm woodsy accord, and Sweet Amber.
  • Hypnotic: Top notes of fresh clean bergamot, geranium, California lemon and California orange oil. Mid to dry notes of Cypress marine accord followed by rich cedar wood, with a warm amber vanilla accord.



Simply Sexy (for Her)


Fragrance: A blend of Sungoddess Rose, Marigold, Ginger, Chamomile Oil, Yellow Freesia, White Violet, Lotus Flower, Day Lily, Patchouli, Oakmoss, Musk combine to evoke the timeless essence of falling in love



JO Gravity


For Her

  • Top Notes – Star fruit, Italian Mandarin, Boysenberry
  • Heart Notes – Lotus Flower, Jasmine
  • Base Notes – Vanilla, Caramelized Pear, Musk, Woods

For Him

  • Top Notes – Birchwood, Bergamot, Bitter Orange
  • Heart Notes – Juniper wood, Artemisia, Cardamom
  • Base Notes – Cedar wood, Oak moss, Vetiver


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Ronda Rousey’s Lube Diss


I love this article, as recently published in XBIZ, one of the adult novelty trades I subscribe to. It addresses the miseducation of sex by public figures in such a great way:

Wicked Sensual Care says it would like to publicly educate MMA and UFC fighter Ronda Rousey about lubricants — and offer her a lifetime supply of products — after she recently ‘dismissed the use of lubricant for sex as a sign of laziness’ in a Q&A with Maxim.com.

In a Nov.3 interview, Rousey answered a question from a fan about what a guy should never and always do in bed with a woman. In the answer, which is part of her column for Maxim.com, Rousey wrote, “What should a guy always do? Take his time. In general, a girl takes a minute. He needs to get her ready. You should never need lube in your life. If you need lube, then you’re being lazy…and you’re not taking your time.”

Carrie Smith, head of product development for Wicked Sensual Care, has responded:

“Ms. Rousey, on behalf of everyone at Wicked Sensual Care, I’d like to tell you how big of fans we are in regards to everything you continue to achieve as an athlete and woman. You stand for beauty in strength, as well as changing body images and gender stereotypes. Your success provides you with a great platform to reach people, which is why I was concerned to hear your thoughts on lube when addressing Maxim readers.

Lubricant is perhaps one of the most essential elements of a healthy and enjoyable sexual experience, regardless of age or gender. Some of the reasons include: its ability to reduce friction, whether natural or from a condom; decrease in the odds a condom will break; assist with sex after menopause; help those with Sexual Arousal Disorder and vaginal dryness; and in the case of Wicked Sensual Care, act as a natural biostatic due to our use of olive leaf extract.

In addition, flavored lubes, like our own Salted Caramel and Candy Apple flavors, make oral pleasures even tastier, while lubes with heating and cooling elements provide added sensations. And of course, lubricant is imperative for anyone engaging in anal sex.

There is no normal when it comes to sex, and everyone is different. If we perpetuate the idea a woman can become naturally lubricated by her partner simply doing the necessary work, then we are ignoring the many women unable to self lubricate due to a number of medical and psychological reasons. We are also putting pressure on the men and women trying to help them become lubricated.

Ideally, sex is fun and pleasurable, which is where lubricants come in to help create the most stress-free environment possible. I welcome any questions you may have, and if you’re so inclined, I am happy to offer you a lifetime supply of Wicked Sensual Care’s products because I believe you may change your mind once you experience the many different types of lubricants now available, from water-based and silicone-based, to our wide range of flavored and PETA-approved lubes demonstrating how far we’ve progressed with sexual health and wellness products.”

Rousey may contact Carrie Smith with any questions about the benefits of lube, or to take her up on the offer for a lifetime supply, the company says.

The Wicked Sensual Care Collection uses eco-conscious, premium quality, natural botanicals and ingredients in stylish and discreet packaging.”

Honestly, I’m so thankful for caring manufacturers who take the time to address issues like this, and am proud to say that Body Candy has been a proud supporter of their line from the start.

Vibrators Treat Common Menopause Symptoms? It’s true!

11133994_10203643985772811_8760787330418850984_nOriginally published on Huffington Post a few years ago, but I love all the great info and though it was worth a share!

Hot flashes, night sweats, shifts in moods… women suffering from menopause are well aware of the symptoms. But one of the more embarrassing symptoms is vaginal dryness.

“Just like when women first get their periods, menopause is a big life change,” said Dr. Mary Jane Minkin, a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Yale University School of Medicine. “The lack of estrogen in the body decreases blood flow to the pelvic region. As a result, this can cause vaginal dryness and vaginal atrophy, or a weakening of the muscle tone in the pelvic area that can lead to sexual dysfunction and painful sex.”

Vaginal dryness is a common complaint for women during and after menopause. To treat the irritating and embarrassing problem, doctors usually prescribe topical estrogen creams and gels that can be applied to the vagina for lubrication. But Dr. Minkin has a different, non-hormonal and slightly unconventional solution: vibrators.

Here, Dr. Minkin explains the benefits of using a vibrator to treat vaginal dryness.

How can a vibrator help with this common menopause symptom?

Vibrators improve reproductive and pelvic health help by stimulating pelvic blood flow, which increases vaginal moisture and boosts sexual response, all of which making sex (with or with a partner) more enjoyable. Like any muscle, the vagina is best kept healthy with regular exercise — it’s the “use it, or lose it” mentality. Deterioration is particularly common as more middle-age or older women find themselves in situations where they aren’t sexually active (single, divorced, widowed or aren’t having regular sex with partners).

Therapeutically, frequent vibrator use can prevent and ward off conditions such as painful vaginal dryness and atrophy. Within a month, women should notice a difference (even past menopause).

Can you walk us through how you diagnose your patients?

I always talk to my patients about her sex life — with or without a partner — during exams. Let’s say I have a post-menopausal patient who is experiencing a lot of vaginal dryness and is not sexually active. I’ll recommend she try the We-Vibe (pictured above) along with lubricant or with estrogen, if she’s comfortable. During the follow up visit, I’ve noticed patients will frequently tell me they don’t need the estrogen as much because increased activity via [a vibrator] provides more moisture. While vibrators can be used with or without estrogen, we work to find the best combination to keep women healthy and happy.

How have women you’ve treated responded to this treatment?

It’s been a very positive response so far. At least half of women I speak with are comfortable using vibrators. Of course I always work within a patient’s comfort zone, but my main goal as their doctor is to provide a variety of treatment options. The reality is, vibrators are a great, no-side effect solution to an issue that millions of women suffer from. My goal is to educate women that vibrators aren’t something to be embarrassed about — not only are they fun, but they also help women stay comfortable and happy during this sometimes uncomfortable stage in life.

How often do you recommend women use a vibrator for treatment?

I recommend my patients use a vibrator three to four times a week, but as Mae West said, “Too much of a good thing can be wonderful!” Also, I suggest patients use lubricants along with the vibrator since the body-safe product is made of medical-grade silicone.


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Pheromone Power!

I love pheromone products! Simply Sexy is my favorite of all of these perfumes.

PS: All of these are available at http://www.bodycandytreats.com !

The Dilly Slinger


pher·o·mone  /ferəˌmōn/

“A chemical substance produced and released into the environment by an animal, especially a mammal or an insect, affecting the behavior or physiology of others of its species. From Greek pherein ‘convey’ + hormone.”

Pheromones are chemical scent signals your body produces that trigger a social response from others. They help draw people to you, and can even help others perceive you as attractive.

Pheromone-Infused products increase your naturally-occurring pheromone output to maximize your appeal!

Whether they really work or not is always the topic of debate. All I know is that when I wear something with pheromones, I get an extra boost in confidence, feel like I interact with others better, generally feel good about myself, and have a really REALLY great day.

There are tons of styles of pheromone products available, but today we’ll talk about my favorite scented pheromone perfumes. Because you now know what pheromones…

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An Ode To Gigi (a love story)

You can get your very own Gigi at http://www.bodycandytreats.com 🙂

The Dilly Slinger


Oh, Gigi, how do I love thee? Let me count the ways…

1. Your sexy sueded silicone shell is so delightful to touch.


2. The way you fit so comfortably in my hand.


3. Your delicious curvy shape.


4. The way your flattened tip provides full-contact to my special spots.


5. Your simple-to-use controls.


6. Your rainbow of colors.


7. How easy you are to travel with. You come with your own satin bag, and your controller has a travel lock (so no accidental and potentially embarrassing buzzing in transit!)


8. Your perfectly petite and discrete size.


9. The way the settings for your powerful vibrations let me slowly build up the intensity, or explore the 8 different options.


10. Your versatility. You are really two pleasure objects in one because you can be used for external or internal stimulation.


11. That you are rechargeable, so I never have to…

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Pleasure Products 101: Vibrators – Traditional Straights

A Vibrator/ Massager is defined as “A device that creates stimulating vibrations. May be applied anywhere to the body but usually used for external or internal stimulation. Motors are powered by batteries, recharging (like your phone) or via plug-in power.”

“Vibrator” is usually a catch-all term that covers any pleasure product with a motor, but today we are talking about what everyone thinks of when they hear that term: The Straight Vibe, which is the traditional, straight up-and-down cylindrical shaped toy.

Straights are available in all sorts of materials, from hard plastic to a soft jelly to everyone’s favorite these days, silicone.

ABS plastic is my personal preference, as you can use any type of lube, and because it seems the vibrations transmit better.

Jelly is nice because it’s usually inexpensive, the softness has some give to it, and it quickly warms to your body temperature. The modern version of Jelly is body-safe because most manufacturers have taken the dreaded Phthalates out of this the manufacturing process, so it’s ok to like it again 😉

Silicone is well known as being top-of-the-line when it comes to vibe construction. I think it’s great because the denseness of the material helps the vibrations come through nicely, yet it’s soft and silky to the touch.

My top picks for Straights all feature a little extra Oomph. Surprisingly, while I generally prefer anything rechargeable (if you’ve ever stolen batteries from your TV remote, you get what I’m sayin’) these all use regular batteries: Continue reading

Pleasure Products 101: Bullets

A Bullet is traditionally defined as “A compact vibrating massager with endless uses: Clitoral stimulation; Between your bodies while being close; Stimulate the penis; Nipple stimulation, etc.”

These mini wonders are designed to be as compact as possible, and work wonderfully for solo use or with a partner. But don’t let their micro size fool you, these little massagers get the job done!

They are available with a battery pack that’s attached with a cord, or as cordless models. Both are equally great, it really just depends on which style suits your comfort level and whichever you like best.

My top picks in this category are: Continue reading