How Sex Toys Affect Your Relationship, Because Couples Who Use Vibrators Communicate More

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Couples sex toys can add a lot to your sex life, but what about your relationship? While some couples find introducing sex toys into the bedroom intimidating, others look to sex toys for couples as the surefire way to heat things up in bed. But what does added pleasure do for your bond? Turns out, a lot.

When sex toy company We-Vibe launched the We-Vibe Classic, a sex toy that allows couples to enjoy it together and apart, thanks to an app that can be downloaded to your phone, the tide of sex toys changed. And now, they’ve added a new one to the mix: Sync. Sync is the world’s first adjustable couples vibrator. This, of course, is great news because, as we all know, when it comes to body parts, one size doesn’t exactly fit all.

Sync’s design allows the user to customize the product to fit in order to achieve both clitoral and vaginal stimulation. Because you’re in control of making Sync fit just right for you and your partner, the company says the product will be able to stay in place no matter the sex position you choose, or if you change from one position to the next. And, like their other couples products, the We-Connect app lets partners play when they’re apart; even a world apart. Sync also lets you vibe to the rhythm of your favorite music, because who hasn’t wanted to feel the vibration of Neutral Milk Hotel between their legs?

To celebrate the launch of Sync, We-Vibe recently conducted a study of 1,000 men and women, between the ages of 35 and 55, to see how sex toys affect their relationships and what they want more of in the bedroom. Here’s what they found.

 

  1. The Majority Of People Use Sex Toys To keep Their Sex Life Spicy

According to the study, 82 percent of those surveyed make a valiant effort to keep their sex life as exciting as possible. You can’t stick to one or two positions forever and not start to get a little bored. That’s where toys, for 52 percent of couples, come in to save the day.

  1. Almost 50 Percent Of People Are Using Sex Toys To Liven Up Their Sex Lives

Not that you should be super surprised, because sex toys are more mainstream than ever, but the study found that 45 percent of people incorporate toys into their sex life to keep things exciting, which is great news! Not just for the sex toy industry, of course, but because toys really do enhance pleasure and sexual exploration.

  1. Using Vibrators Make Couples Communicate More

Of those who participated in the study, 49 percent of couples who use vibrators report communicating often, whether it be about sex or other subjects. In contrast, of those who don’t use vibrators, only 29 percent of couples could report the same level of openness and communication.

  1. Couples Who Use Sex Toys Are Better At Giving Direction To Their Partners

In addition to communicating, when it comes to great sex, couples also need to be able to give direction. Twenty-nine percent of couples who use vibrators have zero qualms about giving their partner directions in bed. As for those who don’t use vibrators, only 17 percent are able to comfortably guide their partners in the right direction.

  1. Just The Act Of Buying A Sex Toy May Increase Communication

According to the study, buying a sex toy — any type of sex toy — is connected with more communication between partners. I mean, if you’re making the purchase together, you do need to be pretty open about what you want and what you don’t want. The survey found that 51 percent of those who bought sex toys talk “often” or “very often” about sex, whereas only 28 percent of those who have not bought a sex toy could attest to communicating about sex.

  1. Most Couples Rely On New Positions To Keep Sex Exciting

Although there are those couples (52 percent) who will throw sex toys into the mix to keep things spicy, most just stick to new sex positions. According to the study, 77 percent of couples try to make sex “more exciting” by trying different positions.

  1. The Minority Of Couples Felt Their Sex Lives Could Be Improved

For 38 percent of respondents, more sex would make their sex lives better. But for those who were content with the amount of sex they were having, what they really wanted was change and better quality sex. Of those surveyed 28 percent wanted better sex with their partner and 28 percent wanted to “change” sex with their partner. As for what that “change” was, (although it might be safe to assume it was to make it more exciting), the respondents didn’t say.

  1. Over 60 Percent Of Couples Think More Foreplay Is The Way To Go

For 62 percent of couples, the most exciting way to make things more fun in the bedroom is by extending foreplay. Although the study didn’t say how long these couples are focusing on foreplay (although let’s really hope for at least 30 minutes), the fact is that foreplay is getting the attention it deserves. Finally.

This article was originally published on Bustle


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13 Incredibly Useful Tips Everyone With Sex Toys Should Know

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by Anna Borges

Takeaway: Scrub it before you buzz it.

Sex toys are awesome and an excellent addition to your sex life, both solo and with a partner.

But sex toys also become a lot less awesome if you don’t care for them properly.

Not washing your toy, using the wrong lube, or storing it incorrectly can all lead to problems, whether that’s a shorter life span or distortion of your toy or a risk of an infection for you. Which, no thanks. BuzzFeed Life talked to Claire Cavanah, co-founder of Babeland and co-author of Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex, for her best tips for keeping your sex toys safe, in good shape, and running as long as possible.

A quick note: Many sex toys come with cleaning instructions, so make sure to look out for anything unique to your toy that these tips might not cover.


1 – Wash your toys after every use

Yep, even if you’re only using it on yourself and not sharing with a partner. Toys that are washed every time last longer. If you don’t, the material can degrade or become discolored, says Cavanah. That, and if an unwashed toy is stored with other toys, it can contaminate them with bacteria.

2 – If you want to be really safe, wash your toys before every use, too.

“They can come in contact with lint, pet hair, or other bacteria while they’re stored and then if you insert them, that goes into your body,” says Cavanah. But if you store your toys correctly (which is covered later in this post), this is just a precaution you can choose to take.

3 – Choose the right soap.

Cavanah suggests using a mild, unscented hand or dish soap — and no need to go with the antibacterial option. “It might seem like a good precaution, but they can leave a residue,” she says.

If you want a more discreet option (like if you live with roommates and don’t want to haul your sex toys to the bathroom every time you use them), you can also go for a toy cleaner, like Before & After Toy Cleaner. “It’s a liquid formula that you spray on the toy and wipe off that neutralizes bacteria and won’t harm the material,” says Cavanah.

4 –  Don’t submerge any battery-operated toys in water to wash.

If your toy has batteries, plugs into the wall, or buzzes in any way, you have to take extra precautions. Wiping it down with a warm, soap washcloth is all you need to do.

5 – OK, now figure out what material your sex toy is.

Obviously, the world of sex toys is vast and varied, so this article is concentrating mostly on vibrators, dildos, plugs, beads…basically anything that can go inside you.

These toys come in a ton of different materials, but can be divided into two categories: porous and nonporous.

Nonporous toys are ones that can be safely shared because their surfaces are impenetrable by bacteria — common nonporous materials are glass, Pyrex, silicone, and stainless steel.

Porous toys, on the other hand, are made from materials like hard plastic, cyberskin, elastomer, jelly rubber, nylon, and neoprene, and are more absorbent.

No need to guess what material your toy is. It should say right on the package (or if you’ve already tossed that, on the manufacturer’s website).

6 -Here’s how to clean your nonporous toys.

Silicone: Wash with soap and water or place it in the top rack of your dishwasher. You can also put it in boiling water for 10 minutes to disinfect it.

Glass: Wash with soap and water, and don’t expose it to extreme temperatures (like in the dishwasher), to avoid warping.

Pyrex: Pyrex is basically heat-resistant glass, so it can be boiled, put in the dishwasher, or washed by hand.

Stainless steel: Boil for 10 minutes, soak in bleach and water (then make sure to RINSE THOROUGHLY), or wash in the dishwasher.

7 – Here’s how to clean your porous toys.

Porous materials are more sensitive to temperature and prone to warping, so most should be washed the same way: with soap and warm water, either in the sink or with a soapy washcloth. Nylon toys are the exception, which can be machine washed.

Again, porous materials are hard plastic, cyberskin, nylon, neoprene, jelly rubber, vinyl and soft vinyl, acrylic, elastomer, and leather.

8 – Make sure you’re using the right lube.

Don’t use silicone- or oil-based lubes with silicone toys, says Cavanah, because it will stick to the material and break down the surface of your toy. Go with water-based or hybrid lube instead — but still always make sure to wash it off afterward (but you’re already doing that anyway, right?)

9 – Use a condom with your porous toys.

Some porous toys can’t be completely disinfected, so you should always use a condom when using it with a partner, says Cavanah. If you’re only using your toy on yourself, you should be fine as long as you wash it after every use.

10 – Always check to make sure your waterproof vibrators are still safe to use.

If the little rubber plug or O-ring that covers the battery compartment of your toy is missing, loose, or broken, no more shower fun for you. Sorry! That thing is no longer waterproof.

11 – Look out for any irregularities that might signal it’s time to throw out your toy.

Sadly, even the best sex toys don’t last forever. “If the motor gets louder, it’s a sign that the toy is getting to the end or if the charge isn’t lasting as long,” says Cavanah. Also look out for seams coming apart or pockmarks in your silicone toys, since that means it’s no longer nonporous. RIP.

12 – Don’t just toss them in your bedside drawer and call it a day.

Who knows what dust, food crumbs, and other junk is lurking in there? Cavanah suggests storing your toys wrapped in cloth or in a cloth bag (luckily, many toys come with their own dust bags, so don’t throw them out). Once you do that, your drawer is totally fine (and definitely preferable to somewhere like under your bed, says Cavanah).

You do want to avoid using Tupperware or plastic bags, though. “Chemicals can leach into the toy over an extended period of time,” she says.

13 – Take the batteries out of your vibrator when you’re not using it.

Leaving the batteries in can actually corrode the toy and drain the battery life, since they’re conducting at a low charge when in the toy. And there’s nothing sadder than the halfhearted buzz of a vibrator on low batteries.

Happy (and safe) sex toy adventures, everyone!

 

13 Incredibly Useful Tips Everyone With Sex Toys Should Know by Anna Borges was originally published on BuzzFeed.


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7 Things to Know About Couples’ Vibrators

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by Anna Lynn

Takeaway: Intercourse often doesn’t lead to orgasm for women. That’s where couples’ vibes come in.

You’ve probably heard some variation of this sad statistic: Only 25 percent of women consistently orgasm during vaginal intercourse.

Let’s put that out there again: Only one in four women reliably experience orgasm during vaginal intercourse, regardless of partner’s penis size, or how long the sex lasts, or even how a woman feels about her partner. And this isn’t according to just one study either; the figure comes from a comprehensive analysis of 33 studies over the past 80 years, which was conducted by Elisabeth Lloyd for “The Case of the Female Orgasm.”

Yikes.

But while that may go against what many of us were raised to believe about partnered, heterosexual intercourse, those who have a firm grasp of female anatomy and sexual function understand full well what it takes to get a girl off. According to experts, clitoral stimulation is what the vast majority of women need to push them over the edge.

Of course, intercourse isn’t the only kind of sex out there. Hands and mouths are both great for pleasing female bodies. So, of course, are vibrators. And that’s where a relatively new breed of vibrator comes in: couples’ vibes. They are designed to make intercourse explosively pleasurable for both partners. Because when it comes to skin-on-skin contact and intimacy, intercourse definitely has a few fun perks. Here are seven things to know about these unique toys.


They Come in Many Shapes, Sizes and Types

A lot of vibrators are great for couples’ play. You can add a wand vibrator, or a simple clitoral vibrator during partner play, or even during intercourse as long as you’re in a position to fit it between you and your partner.

The vibes we often refer to as couples’ vibes, however, are designed to be worn during intercourse for both partners’ pleasure. Although vibrating cock rings fit into this category (and many couples love them!), the main contenders here are c-shaped, wearable couples’ vibes like the We-Vibe Sync and LELO Tiani, among others. This type of vibe is designed to be worn inside a woman’s body, with one arm extending out to reach the clitoris. What this means is that not only can these vibrators be worn hands-free during intercourse, but that the male partner gets a buzz (in addition to a tighter fit).

They’re Designed to Hit the Clit

Couples’ vibrators are popular because they’re designed to stimulate the clitoris, which is just what many women need to be truly (and consistently) orgasmic during partnered intercourse. For many women, these toys can be a game-changer. The clitoris has at least 8,000 sensory nerve endings and is believed to extend deep into the pelvic area. It’s the queen of the orgasmic castle.

They Encourage Communication

Couples’ vibes are fairly easy to use, but because they provide some new sensations or challenges, ensuring that using one is pleasurable for both partners requires some communication.

Positioning the device, your partner and finding the right vibration setting will all take some experimentation. If you’re doing it right, you’ll probably chat, giggle and have fun with a few failed attempts. But isn’t that what great sex is all about?

They Aren’t Just for Women’s Pleasure

With all the vibrating toys available for women, it’s easy to assume that penises just don’t respond to vibration. That isn’t the case.

Many men enjoy vibration against the head of the penis, scrotum or shaft. In fact, research on vibrator use has found that almost half of men have tried a vibrator at least once. They’re even used to help men with sexual dysfunction. In other words, for many men, vibration can feel amaaazing! A couples’ vibrator provides a pleasurable buzz to the head of a man’s penis while it’s inserted. For some men, this will provide an additional (and unique) sensation to intercourse.

They’re Also Fun for One

Just because they’re marketed as couples’ vibes doesn’t mean you can’t use one solo. In fact, because of the way they fit into and against the body, a couples’ vibe can provide a hands-free orgasm. Most of the latest couples’ vibes are remote controlled; just use the remote to control the vibration setting and intensity, lay back, and enjoy the ride!

They’re Great for Foreplay

Thanks to the remote control that comes standard with most couples’ vibes today, the wearer can enjoy a discreet and sexy buzz from her partner from across a room. When it comes to titillating foreplay, this is about as good as it gets. For an extra thrill, try it in public.

They Make a Sexy Gift

If you’re looking to spice things up with a partner, a sex toy can make a great gift. Couples’ vibes offer pleasure to both partners, which makes them an excellent choice. But unlike jewelry, it’ll have both partners purring with pleasure.

As a relatively new type of vibrator, couples’ vibes offer a great option for couples who want to take intercourse to a whole new level. They’re fun, they’re unique and they’re sexy. Sounds like a recipe for a spicier sex life.

 

7 Things to Know About Couples’ Vibrators by Anna Lynn was originally published on Kinkly.


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How A Sex Menu Could Help In The Bedroom

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The simple trick that could help you have amazing sex.

All you need is a pen and paper!

Writhing about naked, covered in sweat: sex is one of the most uninhibited things you can do with another person. So it’s sort of odd that a lot of us are so terrible at talking about it.

And whether a relationship is in those heady stages when you fumble around trying to work out what marks “ooh that’s nice” from “er, please don’t do that”, or together for so long that you think you know their body better than Google Maps knows our planet, it can be tough to express exactly what you want.

Enter the sex menu.

This is list of what a person loves, hates, and would be up for trying during foreplay and sex. The depth that this goes in to depends on the person. Yes, this sounds cringe-worthy, but so is sex and that is why we are in this mess in the first place. And judging by a recent study by relationship charity Relate – which found that less than half of people are satisfied with their sex life, and 51 per cent had not had sex in the last month – a lot of us could do with some help in the bedroom.

Sex expert Dr Stephen de Wit suggests taking twenty minutes to be completely open with yourself, and run down his detailed list of turn-ons and positions, from holding hands to bondage, cross-dressing and caning, and marking ‘yes’ or ‘no’. To refine the list further, the answers can be ranked from one to five for willingness, with a section for notes explaining any concerns, fears or specific requests.

This simple exercise enables a person to build awareness about their body, and to take the time to consider what they enjoy, and how best to share this information with future partners.

“Do not judge others” he adds on his website. “There will be things on the list that turn you on tremendously and some that you’ll say ‘Oh Hells No’ or think something is gross. That is perfectly ok that you are not comfortable with it at this time of your life and it may be something that turns someone else on.”

Sex menus also avoid goal-oriented sex, where orgasms rather than pleasure, experimentation and exploration are the focus.

Peter Saddington, a sex therapist in the Midlands who works for the relationships charity Relate and is a chair of the College of Sexual Relation and Therapy, told The Independent that sex menus can certainly be a useful tool.

“Consistently people assume when they get together and they are sexual they develop a way to work and stick with it and don’t experiment. Sex is still a strange subject. There is pressure to think that people are having lots of great sex and that you need to do the same, but that is not the case for lots of couples”

Saddington goes on to argue that a lack of understanding when it comes to sex starts from a young age. “Sex isn’t talked about successfully by parents talking to kids or in schools. There is a general lack of knowledge and understanding about it as a subject.” As such, people can feel embarrassed and pressured into having sex they don’t fully enjoy.

An alternative to a sex menu is a three circle exercise, adds Saddington, where a person lays out what they are OK with, what they are no OK with, but also what they are happy have to give but not receive and visa versa.

But he stresses that while a sex menu is a good guide, it should still be perceived as flexible.

“How and whether you want to have sex is affected by that day and the relationship. There are questions you need to consider each time you are being sexual. Just because something worked last time, it doesn’t mean a person wants it a second time.”

For couples with clashing lists, Saddington suggests discussing the actions. “This can help ensure you are talking about the same thing, and see if the partner is willing to explore or meet half way.”

From there, try exploring verbally and physically but be sure to stop if something is uncomfortable.

How A Sex Menu Could Help In The Bedroom by Kashmira Gander was originally published on The Independent


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11 Ways for Your Partner (and You) to Get Really, Really Good at Sex

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Hopefully you come away satisfied pretty much every time you have sex. But that doesn’t mean there isn’t room for improvement—for you and your partner.

“It’s always possible to get better at sex,” says New York City sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First. “You can always get more in tune with your own process of sexual arousal, as well as your partner’s, and always fine-tune/enhance the stimulation and orgasm, much of which comes through knowing yourself and knowing each other.”

Jessica O’Reilly, Astroglide’s resident sex and relationship expert, agrees: “I’m a sexologist, and I know I could be much better in bed.”

Here are a few ways to take your sex up a notch:


FOR YOUR PARTNER

  1. Work the spare parts:

“Don’t forget the perineum, testicles, and mons pubis (that padded area right above the genitals),” says licensed marriage and sex therapist Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D. She recommends tickling, fondling, and sucking the areas, both during foreplay and sex, to show how creative you are.

  1. Bust out a sex toy:

Sometimes we all need an extra hand to ramp things up, which is why Van Kirk recommends keeping a favorite sex toy handy. “Using a good sex toy, you can keep things spontaneous, avoid hand/wrist fatigue, and ensure that everyone ‘gets there,’” she says.

  1. Lube, lube, lube:

“The things you can do with lube will change your life,” says O’Reilly. Her best lube move: Use two hands (fingers interlaced) and a generous serving of lube to create a tight, wet grip for an epic hand job. “The couples I work with say this simple hand job technique is so good, it could put an end to blow jobs,” she says.

  1. Tease the anal area:

There’s a big difference between anal sex (which isn’t for everyone) and anal play (which can feel risqué but still within many people’s comfort zones). Kerner recommends grazing your partner’s anal area with your fingers or lips, especially during oral. “There are lots of nerve endings, and it’s also a taboo area for many guys,” he says. Van Kirk agrees: “Many men and women enjoy a little finger play during sex. It ups the ante.” Make sure to always add a little lubricant when exploring this area, as the anal area does not self lubricate.

  1. Double up on sensations:

Try stimulating two areas at once. For example, Kerner says you can squeeze your partner’s nipple while giving manual or oral stimulation to hit several erogenous zones at once.

FOR YOU

  1. Don’t be afraid to fantasize:

Kerner points out that there’s nothing wrong with fantasizing while you’re having sex—and it can really blow your mind. Plus, “it helps stress centers deactivate, which is important for arousal process,” he says.

  1. Take things into your own hands:

The clitoris is the gateway to orgasm for most women, so Kerner recommends either guiding your partner to yours or stimulating it yourself if you’re not getting what you need.

  1. Get noisy:

Not only is noisy sex hot, there’s a biological aspect of it that makes sex even better, O’Reilly says. “Holding back/muffling your sounds impedes natural breathing patterns, which can hinder orgasmic response,” she says. Moaning, groaning, and breathing heavily, on the other hand, helps move things along.

  1. Clear your head:

It sounds obvious that you should be in the moment when you’re having sex, but Van Kirk notes that it’s an issue for a lot of women. “Being stuck in your head, worried about how you look during sex or what you need to do when you’re done, never improves sex,” she points out. Instead, zero in on the sensations you’re feeling and ride them out.

  1. Masturbate more:

“Most women don’t self stimulate enough,” says Van Kirk. “This can result in orgasm issues related to a lack of self awareness about what stimulation works best for them.” Plus, she points out, women who masturbate more tend to have higher self esteems and more confidence in the bedroom. And, of course, when you know what works for you during a solo session, it’s more easy to get what you need with partner sex.

  1. Talk it out:

While there are a lot of moves you can try, Kerner says talking about sex, communicating during sex, and sharing fantasies really is the best way to have next-level sex. “When people think back on the best sex they ever had, there’s often an aspect of novelty or psychological stimulation,” he says.

 

11 Ways for Your Partner (and You) to Get Really, Really Good at Sex By Korin Miller was originally published on Glamour


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Sex Toys That Every Couple Should Try

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Sex toys have come a long way since the days of Dr. Joseph Mortimer Granville’s “electro-mechanical vibrator” hit the scene in 1883. You’ve got sleeves, dildos, props, plugs, things that go in places, things that go on places, and things that go just about anywhere. Just like sex, there are many types of toys and even more ways to enjoy them.

There are probably more sex toys out there than you could use in a lifetime, and each of them more versatile than you can imagine (but, go ahead and try). Some solo sex toys can even translate into a great shared experience for you and your partner, but some are made with both of you in mind.

After gathering data, we curated a list of accessories, tools, and toys, guaranteed to rock both your socks off. Here, you’ll find the best treats you can use with a partner (or even just to amp up your solo playtime).

Adults need toys too. Have a little grown-up fun.


Linea Versa

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This vibrator is ideal for couples in which one partner has a penis and one has a vagina. Each end of the toy does something different: The penetrative end can be inserted for internal vaginal vibrations, and the circular end can be used as a masturbation sleeve for penises. Couples can use the Versa at the same time. Simply place the circle around the penis as the lengthy end slides inside the vagina.

 

The (Hitachi) Magic Wand

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The Hitachi Magic Wand is referred to as the “Cadillac of vibrators” for a reason. It’s big, it’s powerful, and it’s reliable. Originally created to relax muscles, the wand quickly gathered a cult following as a vibrator for its undeniable ability to relax people (especially those with clits) in other ways. While the sex toy works wonders for solo play, it’s fun to use in a relationship to help a partner with a vagina reach orgasm during penetrative sex. For those into BDSM, the magic wand is often used by the dominant on the submissive partner to bring the sub to orgasm while they’re bound or tied up.

 

Chain Nipple Clamps

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Anyone with nipples can enjoy nipple clamps. While the toy can be used solo, experimenting with a partner can be especially fun if you’re exploring BDSM. The dominant partner (the one exerting control over the sex scene) will usually place the clamps on the submissive’s nipples. This pair in classic S&M black and red is useful for beginners, since they are adjustable. Begin by placing the clamps on the nipples with light pressure, and adjust the little screw as wanted to tighten for more intense sensations.

 

Beginner’s Butt Plug

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Butt plugs are a must-have for any couple interested in anal play, and they don’t have to be used solo: They can be worn during vaginal intercourse for dual-penetration with a partner. It’s important to start small, so this little guy is a perfect plug for beginners. Just don’t forget to use lube when inserting anal toys into your butt.

 

Clone-A-Willy In-Home Penis Molding Kit 

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If your partner has a penis, this aptly-named “Clone-A-Willy” lets you create a silicone mold of it — one that vibrates. Ideal for couples in long-distance relationships, the toy comes in a variety of skin tones, so you can get as realistic as you’d like. (You also have the option to make it neon pink and glow-in-the-dark, which…yes.) If creating a penis clone sounds daunting, fear not: According to customer reviews, the Clone-A-Willy comes with detailed and easy to follow instructions

 

Ours Fetish Kit

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If you’re curious about adding BDSM to your relationship, but unsure of where to start, this starter kit is just what you need. It contains wrist and ankle cuffs, a ball gag, a blindfold, nipple suckers, and a tickler for teasing. Just be sure to learn about some BDSM best practices, and then get ready to dip your toes into the world of kink.

 

Big O Multi-Stage Vibrating Penis Ring

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This vibrating penis ring promises to keep you both stimulated and satisfied.

 

OhMiBod LoveLife & Share Vibrating Ring

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This snug vibrating ring is one you and your partner can enjoy together. Don’t let its compact size fool you — with seven different vibration settings, the Love Life vibrator packs enough energy for the both of you.

 

Entice Kegel Balls

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This kegel bead set is here to turn up the heat on your foreplay sessions.

Inspired by Ben Wa balls, the Entice Kegel Balls is a set of two beads connected with a retrieval wire that promises to deliver some seriously unique pleasure. The inner balls are meant to respond to movement with subtle vibrations, making them perfect to use with a partner.

 

Lelo SIRI 2

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The only thing better than a vibrator with eight different settings is a vibrator that vibrates to eight different settings, according to your music.

Lelo’s SIRI 2 works as a regular vibrator sans-music as well, but should you wish, you can also get creative and sync your music library to let it pulse to the beat of your any song you choose. Bonus: it also boasts Lelo’s “strongest vibrations ever,” and is 100% waterproof. Sure, you can use it solo, but letting your partner take the reins is half the fun.

 

We-Vibe 4 Plus

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This is the perfect couples’ sex toy — it was designed specifically to be used during intercourse. The U-shaped toy has one curved arm to stimulate the clit and another to rest in the vagina during intercourse — and it provides enough vibration and simulation for both partners.

Added bonus: It can be controlled by an app on your phone. This makes it pretty ideal for long-distance relationships (talk about taking sexting to another level), but that doesn’t mean couples who get tons of face-to-face time can’t enjoy it, too. You and your partner can download the free We-Vibe 4+ app and connect your toy to it by inputting the serial number. You can then invite each other to “connect” on the app and sync up. We’ll let you take it from there.

 

Liberator Heart Wedge
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Yes, fine, it looks like a physical-therapy aid. But, the Liberator is a cult classic for very good reason. It’s an extremely firm and durable cushion that makes so many sex acts more comfortable (and those hard-to-reach spots very, very reachable).

Use it under your pelvis during oral sex. Try using it for elbow support during…anything that requires elbow support. There’s really nothing else like it for new or tricky positions. Sometimes, all you need is a little boost.

 

Soy Massage Candle

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Scented candles are always a gamble. Will it be too strong, too sweet, too “sensual?” This line really gets it right — fragrant, but not overpowering.

But, the coolest thing about massage candles is their double duty. The oil melts at a lower temperature than wax, so you can pour or brush the melted candle directly onto skin without burning anybody.

 

JO Premium Silicone Lube

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A lot of people get weird about lube, frantically insisting, “I don’t need it!” as if human worth were judged by the ability to self-lubricate. The truth is, even if you don’t “need” lube, per se, it can make so many things so much more fun (and comfortable).

JO Premium, as the name suggests, is the ultimate. It’s silicone, meaning it’s hypoallergenic and will not be absorbed into your skin.

 

Sex Toys That Every Couple Should Try by Kelsey Miller was originally published on Refinery29, and amended to include items we at Body Candy love.


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How Sex Toys Can Help You Play Nice With a Partner

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Picture it: You’re with a partner, it’s late at night and things are getting pretty hot. You’re kissing, you’re touching, you’re sizing each other up for the next move. So you decide to make one: You reach under the bed and pull out … your favorite sex toy.

Now here’s where things get interesting. Because while some people (both men and women) will jump at the chance to play with something new, others will, well, freak right out.

Men often worry that that big ‘ol purple dildo has appeared to replace them; women may feel embarrassed by those anal beads, or maybe just plain worried about where they’re gonna go (and how that’s going to feel).

Those feelings are common – and worth exploring – but they miss the point. Sex toys aren’t about replacing a partner or making them uncomfortable. They’re about fun! And they can be a lot of fun. The key is to apply the very same rules you’d apply to any other sex play. And by that we mean communication, consent and care.

Want to bring a little adventure into the bedroom? We talked to Charlie Glickman, a sexuality educator who’s teamed up with Violet Blue to present a new edition of her new book, “The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys.” Here are five things to know about playing nice – with toys!

They Aren’t a Substitute

You might use sex toys more often when you’re lonely or single, but even when you’re in a super-hot relationship, a little toy action on the side can be a beautiful thing. It’s a way to de-stress. It’s a way to learn. Heck, it’s a way to pass an otherwise uneventfull Saturday afternoon. What it isn’t is a replacement for a sexual relationship.

“One of the great things about sex toys is that they give you ways to create sensations that human bodies just don’t do. They’re not a substitute, just an add-on. Sex without a toy is fun and I’m not knocking it, but you can do things with a vibrator or dildo that human bodies don’t do. Toys just give you more possibilities,” Glickman said.

So rather than thinking of that vibrating dildo as your partner’s silicone stand-in, think of it as you would a blender: It can help make a great dish, but it doesn’t replace the cook!

They’re Nothing Special … but What You Do With Them Might Be

With the exception of a few toys designed specifically for couples, such as the We-Vibe, vibrating cock rings or a strap-on, many “couples'” toys are really just the same old sex toys you might use solo. What’s special about bringing a partner in on the action is that it might enable you to use the toy in new and different ways (we only have two hands of our own after all!).

You Have to Tread Lightly

If you want to use a toy with a partner but have never brought it up before, the time to do it is not in the heat of the moment. Seriously. While some people will see that introduction as super-sexy, it’ll make many other people cringe. Plus, it’s a bit of an ambush. Sex makes us vulnerable. Ambushing someone in a vulnerable position is, well, not very nice.

“I think you’re better off introducing the topic before you take your clothes off,” Glickman said. “That way if your partner says ‘tell me more,’ if they have question or feelings, you haven’t just dumped a cold pitcher of ice water on your sexy Saturday night. It’s better to introduce it rather than pull your vibrator out from under the bed. Because you might be surprised how someone reacts to that.”

If you want to play with toys, test the waters with your partner first – by talking it over.

You Have to Experiment

Sex toy retailers tend to bombard people with sensory adjectives. It’s called marketing, and while Glickman says it generally isn’t inaccurate, it tends to lead to one very inaccurate assumption: That all those words will describe your experience with a toy. You know what they say: One person’s leg-shaking orgasm might be another person’s onerous and unsuccessful attempt at sexual stimuation. That’s just the way it is with sex toys because our bodies are so different.

“Nothing works the same for everybody,” Glickman said. “If a toy really isn’t any good, they’ll stop manufacturing it very quickly. So, if you’ve seen a toy around for a while, chances are it works for a lot of people.”

Of course that still doesn’t mean it’ll work for you. In order to find that out, you’ll have to try it … and possibly practice a little at using it.

“Sometimes a toy works and sometimes it doesn’t, but try it again another day,” Glickman said. “You might need to try something a couple of times to figure out how to make it work for you.”

And don’t assume that bigger or harder or stronger is better. What’s better is what feels best to you. Find out what that is, and branch out from there.

Toys Widen Your Sexual Repertoire

“Sex is a lot like food,” Glickman says. “You never know what you’re going to like until you try it. So sometimes it pays to be a little adventurous.”

Sex toys are a great way to bring a little adventure into the bedroom, to experiment with new experiences and to share them with your partner. Plus, having a few around can really expand what’s on the menu – and that means you and your partner are more likely to leave the table feeling satisfied.

How Sex Toys Can Help You Play Nice With a Partner was originally published on Kinkly.


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