It’s the little things…


Sometimes the little things are actually the biggest things of all.

Saying “Thank you.”

Leaving love notes.

Smiling when you both get the joke at the same time.

A long chatty drive.

Your shared love of animals.

Singing along to the song on the radio.

A kiss hello.

A kiss good-bye.

Sitting in the backyard at night in shared silence.

Talking on the phone in the car when you are on your way home and your honey is already there.





9 Clever Ways To Introduce Sex Toys Without Damaging Your Man’s Ego


Originally posted on Tickle Kitty

Men love their action figures, their video games and their power tools, but they can be totally iffy about toys of the sexual variety.

As silly as it may sound, sex toys are sometimes threatening to men. Men want to feel capable and needed by their women, so if toys are spontaneously brought into the bedroom, and/or used on the regular, it could give off the wrong impressions. Best thing to do is get him in on the fun.

So if you want your man to put away his video games and power tools (don’t worry he can finish your honey-do list and save the Mushroom Kingdom later) and spend more time playing with sex toys, we recommend considering these 9 tips:

  1. Be size wise.

Look, bringing a dildo or vibrator into the bedroom can already be awkward enough as it is. Men usually have a complex about having other dicks in the vicinity of their naked girlfriend, even if they aren’t real – especially if it’s more endowed than him! So your best bet is to choose a toy that’s smaller than him, and gradually move up in size over time.

A great just-getting-started small vibe like the Callie is perfect as it’s only 3 inches total. Or consider something totally non-phallic and non-intimidating like My Secret Vibrating Lipstick. You can invite him to paint your lips!

  1. Try going gender neutral.

Choose a ‘unisex’ style toy – that can be used for the both of your pleasures. The Bodywand is a great example of this. It’s so powerful and can be used all over both of your bodies: from butt massage, to nipple play – and everything in between. Or perhaps try the Sqweel GO!, which is also used topically on your erogenous zones, and is meant to imitate the act of being licked. Who wouldn’t want a tongue bath?

  1. Go for a couples toy.

There are many toys specially designed to give you both please, simultaneously. This angle of introduction will help even the playing field. The APEX Vibrating Penis Ring is a great option – it provides longer, harder erections for him, while offering those OMG! vibrations on your clitoris. You may even be able to orgasm at the same time!

Or, you can’t go wrong with the bestselling couples We-Vibe 4 Plus for APP-controlled flirty fun. Not only will he be able to control your orgasm from anywhere in the world, but it will also kind of feel like he is playing a sexy video game, because he gets to use the remote control. This will ensure that he’ll be having almost as much fun as you are.

  1. Try a subtle surprise.

In your cunning, cat-like way, surprise him softly with a small, harmless Classic Silver Bullet while giving him oral love. When you’ve got him by the balls, a guy will say yes to almost anything (please don’t use this for evil purposes).

Simply hide it under the pillow beforehand and slip it out with your free hand at the right moment and let him feel the vibrational pleasures at the base of his penis or on his balls while you continue your loving. You not hear a thing out of his mouth but stronger, louder, panting!

  1. Give him a show!

With a new vibe as your sidekick, use it on yourself, and let him sit back, watch and enjoy. Everyone knows almost every man loves to watch a woman masturbate. So play it up for him and see what he does next… Consider the Hello Touch for this amazing show, which is a non-intimidating toy that turns your fingertips into mini-vibrators. The best part is you can slip them onto him next and let his fingers do the walking!

  1. Make it all about his pleasure, first.

Prepare a little treasure trove of men’s playthings for him including a RingO PRO Silicone Penis Ring, Mood Powerball, and Apollo Automatic Head Pump – and you’ll be set. Let him lay back and enjoy the all the pleasures coming his way. If he’s a good sport, he’ll happily return the favors.

  1. Show him porn you like.

We’re fairly certain your man would be amped at the idea of watching porn with his lady. I mean, it’s pretty much every man’s dream (yes, most of our dreams are sexually charged).

This in turn leaves an excellent opportunity to introduce the world of sex toys to him, in a comfortable and familiar setting — a setting where he may even feel right at home in. Let’s be real, he’s probably been watching the stuff since he was 13.

So find a video that you enjoy, where they use toys like the kind you want to try such as the Booty Vibro Kit or the G-Gasm Dual Stimulator. As you both enjoy the show, tell him you want to experiment with said toy(s). Maybe put on the cute and sexy voice you sometimes use to make him weak. You know, the one you use to get him to put on deodorant or take out the garbage. Then ask him if he’d play toys with you. He may then be interested, so it’s be a good idea to have one handy!

  1. Make a sexy trade.

If the above methods don’t work, or you don’t want to encourage his porn addiction, you can always make a pleasure trade for something he wants (just to warn you: if we know anything about men — it will probably be anal – however never do anything unless YOU are comfortable with it). Whatever the pleasure trade may be, wouldn’t that trade be oh, so worth it if it meant you could bring something like the Womanizer Deluxe into the bedroom?

He’ll be so stoked about getting his wish, he won’t even think twice about any uncertainty he may have about using toys.

  1. Reassure him with good communication.

Feel free to express how much you would like to explore toys, already enjoy them, or would like to them enjoy them with him – and how super hot they get you. But also tell him how much you enjoy sex without the toys. Explain to him that you like to experiment and would enjoy exploring both forms of sex (with and without toys). It’s never a matter of him being “replaced” (which is impossible to do!), but rather being open to enhancing your sexual experiences together with the world of sex toys right at your fingertips.

He’s still on the fence? Then start easy with We’ve Never… But We Will! couple’s foreplay game – you can’t go wrong there!

Ready to play?

Did you find yourself fantasizing or flexing your pelvic orgasm muscle as you learned about the amazing toys mentioned above? No time like the present!

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A Fun Post-Date Night Activity

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Want to keep the fun going once you get home from your fun night out? Shop together online!

Looking at a pleasure product website that is designed to be couple-friendly can help you and your partner learn a lot about each other.

Communication is a key element in any healthy relationship, but when it comes to bedroom activities it’s easy to be too shy to ask for what you want.

Setting aside some time for you and your honey to shop together online is a subtle way to let your partner know what you are interested in, and to learn what your partner wants to try

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and also what he or she has no interest in at all.

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Body Candy Romantic Treats is perfect for this activity, because even though the product selection is spicy, the pleasure product designs are of a more subtle nature.

Go on, give it a try! You’ll be so glad you did 😉

Ready to play?

Feeling frisky? No time like the present!

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Introducing the Limited Edition Our Room Collection


The Limited Edition Our Room Collection is built around a selection of core, limited-run versions of System JO products which increase touch, taste, and sensation. The signature Pink Champagne flavored lubricant offers a refined taste to your next intimate moment.  System JO has further improved the entire experience by selecting the perfect accessories to create a deeper experience.

The essence of Our Room is to educate and enhance each person’s understanding of what pleasure is, and how to increase the presence and depth of each experience.  Our Room is a place to break free of the normal, expected routine in order to embrace the surprise of something new, while remaining open to creativity in every form.  To put it crudely, without pain one cannot truly know or appreciate the depth of pleasure.  This is not to say that through pain comes pleasure, this is to say that variety is the spice of life, and many people enjoy the lingering bite of a little heat.

Our Room is designed for you to explore the idea of sensation play, body-worship, and basic role play/fantasy play.  Step out of your role as mother/father or wife/husband and find your role as an object of pure desire.  Learn the joys of submitting to your lover’s demands, and feel the power of your voice as you command your lover to fulfill your deepest longings. This alone is a powerful exercise that can help you to be more assertive in life as well as in love. You may find yourself being more aware of your partner’s feelings or acknowledging a deeper sensation of trust between you both.  Remember, there is no such thing as too much fun!

The most important foundation within any relationship is open, honest communication; without it we would be left making educated guesses as to how someone feels and what they truly desire.  The lover’s contract that is built into the Tempt Me, Bind Me, and Serve Me kits offer a great way to share a deeper side of yourself without fear of judgment, and within an agreed upon structure.

Bring your relationship to new heights with the Our Room collection by JO and check back later for more tips, tricks, and helpful additions to take your bed-room repertoire to a whole new level!

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18 Signs the Honeymoon Phase of Your Relationship Never Ended

Cosmo just posted this, and I love it and feel like I could have written it so I’m sharing with you all here 🙂


1. The best part of your day, every day, after years and years of being together, is coming home to your significant other. 

2. You cuddle every single night. Cuddling never gets old. Cuddling is the chocolate of couple behaviors.

3. He actually gets excited about watching your TV shows with you. He makes sure he’s home in time for The Bachelor, even if he sits there for the two hours reading his phone and making sassy comments about the whole mess. He tolerates it because he just loves being with you.

 4. Even after all this time, you are convinced he’s the hottest man on the planet. He thinks you’re the most beautiful woman who’s ever walked the earth.

5. You travel together without getting into big, embarrassing, crying-in-the-airport fights. In fact, you actually amuse each other, and have interesting or funny conversations when you’re standing in the airport security line. Because even hell (airports) is bliss when you’re together.

6. He’ll randomly massage your hands or feet, or do whatever physical thing he does that you love, just to make you feel nice out of the blue. 

7. You can tell each other what annoys you about the other and find it amusing rather than rage-inducing. You secretly find each other’s obsessions and idiosyncrasies adorable. His occasional borderline OCD-esque behavior becomes a funny story you can’t resist telling your friends.

8. Date night is still the best night of the week. Because you get uninterrupted, cell phone-free time to stare deeply into each other’s eyes across a table. No, you don’t care how gross it is. Yes, you’re holding hands while you do it.

9. You always give each other a kiss good-bye before you leave. Even if one of you is sleeping, parting wouldn’t feel right without a kiss.

10. You can’t do anything together without touching each other for an extended period of time. If you’re reading together on the couch or in bed, you feel compelled to hold his hand or high-five him or something.

11. Someone in your family or friend group has probably remarked at some point within the past year how touchy-feely you and your partner are. You can’t help it! Romantic magnetism is a force beyond your control.

12. If you’re married, every time you go on vacation together, it feels like your honeymoon all over again. 

13. Dry spells are a concept you don’t understand. When you watch shows likeTogetherness about couples who don’t want to have sex with each other, you can’t imagine life being like that. (See above re: ~*rOmAnTiC MaGnEtiSm*~.)

14. You get excited about doing little things for each other, like cooking dinner or picking up his favorite bagels/takeout/other thing he likes. It makes coming home to each other even better than is usually is.

15. You are delighted when he brings home flowers for you, but not floored by the gesture.He does this from time to time, especially when you’re having a bad day. You never expect it, but you’re not surprised about it.

16. Your friends talk about how cute you two are. And when people who don’t know both of you ask to see pictures, they always comment about how adorable you are as a couple.

17. You still wear the lingerie you got at your bridal shower/bachelorette. 

18. You love Valentine’s Day. It’s like date night squared. ❤

Love yourself


“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”

Isn’t that the truth?

It all starts with loving and caring for yourself. If you take just a little extra time for YOU every day, it really makes a world of difference. It doesn’t have to be a big giant thing, it can be something simple, like using a scented lotion. Just the act of caressing your skin as you apply a creamy concoction that smells divine is like starting off your day with a wonderful hug.