4 Foreplay Tricks You Probably Haven’t Tried

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Foreplay doesn’t just help get you in the mood—it can also feel as good as or sometimes even better than sex.

Since everyone has different turn-ons, the best thing you can do is pay attention to what works for you and then try to recreate it, says Winter. Don’t be afraid to let your partner know when they do something that you like, either. They’ll probably be happy to keep doing whatever gets you going in the future…and they’ll definitely appreciate the positive feedback.

Don’t believe us? Then you probably haven’t tried these fun new ideas.

  1. Replay your best memories together.

If you want to get some of the passion you had early in your relationship back, one thing you can do is recreate your past, says sexologist Barbara Winter, Ph.D.

This can start before sex—for example, going to one of your old date-night spots or wearing the same clothes you wore during a hot moment at the beginning of your relationship. Then, later in the night, break out a move you used to do in bed that really turned you both on.

  1. Start off outside the bedroom.

If you want to make things more spontaneous, try initiating foreplay in the kitchen, office, garage, or anywhere else where you don’t typically do it, says sex and relationship coach Claudia Six, Ph.D.

You can either lead your partner to the bedroom afterward or just have sex right then and there. “It’s the unexpected that keeps things interesting,” she says.

  1. Watch porn together.

If you and your partner are both into porn or are at least intrigued by it, try checking it out together. Afterward, Winter recommends talking about what you each like and dislike and what you might want to try (or not). Sometimes, it opens you up to ideas you might not have thought of before, says Winter.

  1. Experiment with temperature.

Heat and cold can both add a lot to the sensations you’re already feeling. One way to play with temperature is to suck on ice cubes and lick each other’s erogenous zones. Or you can try dripping warm wax on each other’s bodies or using warming lube. Either tactic—or the two combined—should create “a delicious shiver,” says Six.

 

4 Foreplay Tricks You Probably Haven’t Tried by Suzannah Weiss was originally published on Glamour


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Our Top 10 Lubricants, as picked by YOU!

I love end-of-the-year countdowns, so I thought it would be fun do a Top Ten for Body Candy’s top sellers for 2016.

From now through the end of the year, I’ll feature the best of the best, as selected by you, from your favorite categories, culminating in a list of the Top Ten Overall list the last Sunday of the year.

If you want to learn more about any of our Tops, clicking on any image takes you to the listing on bodycandyromantictreats.com

First up – Your Top Ten Favorite Lubricants!


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Flavored options and System JO dominated in this category. WOW, you guys really love your JO!

Here are your favorite lubes, starting with number 10 and working our way up to number one.

10 – Wet Original Gel

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9 – JO Premium Silicone Lubricant

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8 – JO Classic Hybrid

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7 – JO Agape for Her

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6 – JO Organic NaturaLove Lubricant with Chamomile

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5 – Candy Lube

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4 – JO H2O

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3 – JO Gelato Flavored Lubricant

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2 – AQUA Flavors by Wicked

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And your very favorite, number one lubricant is…..

 

1 – JO H2O Flavors!

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Stay tuned next week for more of YOUR favorites!

 


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How To Make Lube Application Feel Sexy Instead Of Awkward

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We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship. But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions?

Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions will remain anonymous. Please send your sex and relationship inquiries to tips@bustle.com. Now on to this week’s question: how to make using lube feel sexy.

Q: “I’ve read about the benefits of using lube during sex. I am definitely on the drier side, so I know I should give it a shot. I bought some, but in the moment, I just can’t bring myself to actually use it during sex. I feel awkward interrupting the moment to pull out the bottle. I feel weird and on display slathering it on myself. Is there a way to put on lube that’s sexy and doesn’t pause everything?”

A: Thanks for the question! I think lube is one of the simplest, yet most effective, tools for improving your sex life. It decreases pain and discomfort, makes sex feel better, and can be an awful lot of fun to play around with. That being said, I know a lot of people still feel uncomfortable using lube, for some of the exact reasons you described. But we shouldn’t let goopy bottles or a fear of busting it out ruin the entire experience! Here are eight ways to make lube feel sexier.

 

  1. Treat Yourself

Most people buy their lube at the drugstore, but it’s hard to get very excited by an ugly bottle that cost you three bucks. If you can afford it, I highly recommend splurging on a high-quality bottle of lube like Pjur or Wicked. It will feel more luxurious and special, which will help you feel less embarrassed whipping it out. If you’re in a relationship, you can even research your purchase together so it feels like a treat for both of you.

  1. Put It In A Cute Lotion Dispenser

Even the best lube manufacturers have yet to address what I think is the most frustrating aspect of using lube: dealing with the bottle in the moment! Pjur brand is my holy grail of lubes, but I hate the screw-top design. The cap inevitably slides out of your hands, it’s difficult to figure out exactly how much you’re dispensing, and it’s tricky not to get lube all over the bottle.

But here’s a simple solution — transfer your lube into a pretty pump dispenser! The pump makes it easy to get lube quickly and discretely. It ensures that at least one hand stays lube-free, so you won’t have to worry about trying to put a cap back on while your fingers are slippery. You can find a beautiful bottle that suits your tastes and won’t look out of place on your bedside table, meaning it will always be within reach instead of buried at the bottom of your drawer.

  1. Experiment With It On Your Own

If you’re brand-new to using lube, it may take a bit of time to get comfortable using it. Let me be clear — there’s absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about when it comes to using lube. But if you’re feeling awkward about using it, the best way to get more comfortable is to use it on your own first. Try masturbating with lube. Play with it with your fingers. Notice the way it changes the sensation of your own touch. See if you can make masturbation more of a sensual, seductive experience.

  1. Use It During A Massage

Similarly, it may take some time to get used to using lube with a partner. One really easy way to introduce lube to your relationship is to use it during a massage. A lot of people don’t know that lube can work well as a regular massage oil. Tell your partner that you have a surprise for them, then get a little bit of lube in your hands and rub their shoulders. As you both get turned on, you can say something like, “we can play with this in other areas too.”

  1. Put It On Privately

If you’re feeling shy about using lube with your partner, you can always keep a bottle in your bathroom and put it on privately. Or keep a few single-use packets in your purse if you’re going to a partner’s house. Again, there’s nothing to be embarrassed about, but it’s fine to give yourself some time to build up your courage. (Keep in mind that you don’t want to let your partner perform oral sex if you’re using a lube that’s not specifically designed to be tasted, but this trick should work just fine before manual stimulation or penetration.)

  1. Ask Your Partner To Put It On You

Once you’re feeling more comfortable with the lube, hand your bottle to your partner and tell them, “I want you to put some of this on me.” Have them spend some time rubbing and massaging your thighs, labia, and clitoris. This way, lube becomes a part of the action instead of just some weird step you do before you’re ready to go.

  1. Put It On Your Partner

If you usually engage in penetrative sex, you can try applying the lube to your partner’s dildo or penis. Apply a generous amount, since you want the lube to transfer to your vaginal canal during penetration. Play with your partner’s equipment for a while. If you want to up the sensation play factor, blindfold your partner or ask them to close their eyes, then surprise them with an extra-slippery hand job. This is another way to make lube a part of the fun!

  1. Put On A Show

Once you’re feeling more bold, one of the best ways to make lube sexy in the moment is to put on a show for your partner. Grab some lube, spread your legs, and let your partner watch you rub it all over yourself. If you’re feeling really seductive, say something like, “do you like watching that?” I guarantee you that this move will make you and your partner practically explode with desire!

Vanessa Marin’s article was originally posted on Bustle


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Ronda Rousey’s Lube Diss

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I love this article, as recently published in XBIZ, one of the adult novelty trades I subscribe to. It addresses the miseducation of sex by public figures in such a great way:

Wicked Sensual Care says it would like to publicly educate MMA and UFC fighter Ronda Rousey about lubricants — and offer her a lifetime supply of products — after she recently ‘dismissed the use of lubricant for sex as a sign of laziness’ in a Q&A with Maxim.com.

In a Nov.3 interview, Rousey answered a question from a fan about what a guy should never and always do in bed with a woman. In the answer, which is part of her column for Maxim.com, Rousey wrote, “What should a guy always do? Take his time. In general, a girl takes a minute. He needs to get her ready. You should never need lube in your life. If you need lube, then you’re being lazy…and you’re not taking your time.”

Carrie Smith, head of product development for Wicked Sensual Care, has responded:

“Ms. Rousey, on behalf of everyone at Wicked Sensual Care, I’d like to tell you how big of fans we are in regards to everything you continue to achieve as an athlete and woman. You stand for beauty in strength, as well as changing body images and gender stereotypes. Your success provides you with a great platform to reach people, which is why I was concerned to hear your thoughts on lube when addressing Maxim readers.

Lubricant is perhaps one of the most essential elements of a healthy and enjoyable sexual experience, regardless of age or gender. Some of the reasons include: its ability to reduce friction, whether natural or from a condom; decrease in the odds a condom will break; assist with sex after menopause; help those with Sexual Arousal Disorder and vaginal dryness; and in the case of Wicked Sensual Care, act as a natural biostatic due to our use of olive leaf extract.

In addition, flavored lubes, like our own Salted Caramel and Candy Apple flavors, make oral pleasures even tastier, while lubes with heating and cooling elements provide added sensations. And of course, lubricant is imperative for anyone engaging in anal sex.

There is no normal when it comes to sex, and everyone is different. If we perpetuate the idea a woman can become naturally lubricated by her partner simply doing the necessary work, then we are ignoring the many women unable to self lubricate due to a number of medical and psychological reasons. We are also putting pressure on the men and women trying to help them become lubricated.

Ideally, sex is fun and pleasurable, which is where lubricants come in to help create the most stress-free environment possible. I welcome any questions you may have, and if you’re so inclined, I am happy to offer you a lifetime supply of Wicked Sensual Care’s products because I believe you may change your mind once you experience the many different types of lubricants now available, from water-based and silicone-based, to our wide range of flavored and PETA-approved lubes demonstrating how far we’ve progressed with sexual health and wellness products.”

Rousey may contact Carrie Smith with any questions about the benefits of lube, or to take her up on the offer for a lifetime supply, the company says.

The Wicked Sensual Care Collection uses eco-conscious, premium quality, natural botanicals and ingredients in stylish and discreet packaging.”

Honestly, I’m so thankful for caring manufacturers who take the time to address issues like this, and am proud to say that Body Candy has been a proud supporter of their line from the start.

Introducing the Limited Edition Our Room Collection

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The Limited Edition Our Room Collection is built around a selection of core, limited-run versions of System JO products which increase touch, taste, and sensation. The signature Pink Champagne flavored lubricant offers a refined taste to your next intimate moment.  System JO has further improved the entire experience by selecting the perfect accessories to create a deeper experience.

The essence of Our Room is to educate and enhance each person’s understanding of what pleasure is, and how to increase the presence and depth of each experience.  Our Room is a place to break free of the normal, expected routine in order to embrace the surprise of something new, while remaining open to creativity in every form.  To put it crudely, without pain one cannot truly know or appreciate the depth of pleasure.  This is not to say that through pain comes pleasure, this is to say that variety is the spice of life, and many people enjoy the lingering bite of a little heat.

Our Room is designed for you to explore the idea of sensation play, body-worship, and basic role play/fantasy play.  Step out of your role as mother/father or wife/husband and find your role as an object of pure desire.  Learn the joys of submitting to your lover’s demands, and feel the power of your voice as you command your lover to fulfill your deepest longings. This alone is a powerful exercise that can help you to be more assertive in life as well as in love. You may find yourself being more aware of your partner’s feelings or acknowledging a deeper sensation of trust between you both.  Remember, there is no such thing as too much fun!

The most important foundation within any relationship is open, honest communication; without it we would be left making educated guesses as to how someone feels and what they truly desire.  The lover’s contract that is built into the Tempt Me, Bind Me, and Serve Me kits offer a great way to share a deeper side of yourself without fear of judgment, and within an agreed upon structure.

Bring your relationship to new heights with the Our Room collection by JO and check back later for more tips, tricks, and helpful additions to take your bed-room repertoire to a whole new level!

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Vibrators Treat Common Menopause Symptoms? It’s true!

11133994_10203643985772811_8760787330418850984_nOriginally published on Huffington Post a few years ago, but I love all the great info and though it was worth a share!

Hot flashes, night sweats, shifts in moods… women suffering from menopause are well aware of the symptoms. But one of the more embarrassing symptoms is vaginal dryness.

“Just like when women first get their periods, menopause is a big life change,” said Dr. Mary Jane Minkin, a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Yale University School of Medicine. “The lack of estrogen in the body decreases blood flow to the pelvic region. As a result, this can cause vaginal dryness and vaginal atrophy, or a weakening of the muscle tone in the pelvic area that can lead to sexual dysfunction and painful sex.”

Vaginal dryness is a common complaint for women during and after menopause. To treat the irritating and embarrassing problem, doctors usually prescribe topical estrogen creams and gels that can be applied to the vagina for lubrication. But Dr. Minkin has a different, non-hormonal and slightly unconventional solution: vibrators.

Here, Dr. Minkin explains the benefits of using a vibrator to treat vaginal dryness.

How can a vibrator help with this common menopause symptom?

Vibrators improve reproductive and pelvic health help by stimulating pelvic blood flow, which increases vaginal moisture and boosts sexual response, all of which making sex (with or with a partner) more enjoyable. Like any muscle, the vagina is best kept healthy with regular exercise — it’s the “use it, or lose it” mentality. Deterioration is particularly common as more middle-age or older women find themselves in situations where they aren’t sexually active (single, divorced, widowed or aren’t having regular sex with partners).

Therapeutically, frequent vibrator use can prevent and ward off conditions such as painful vaginal dryness and atrophy. Within a month, women should notice a difference (even past menopause).

Can you walk us through how you diagnose your patients?

I always talk to my patients about her sex life — with or without a partner — during exams. Let’s say I have a post-menopausal patient who is experiencing a lot of vaginal dryness and is not sexually active. I’ll recommend she try the We-Vibe (pictured above) along with lubricant or with estrogen, if she’s comfortable. During the follow up visit, I’ve noticed patients will frequently tell me they don’t need the estrogen as much because increased activity via [a vibrator] provides more moisture. While vibrators can be used with or without estrogen, we work to find the best combination to keep women healthy and happy.

How have women you’ve treated responded to this treatment?

It’s been a very positive response so far. At least half of women I speak with are comfortable using vibrators. Of course I always work within a patient’s comfort zone, but my main goal as their doctor is to provide a variety of treatment options. The reality is, vibrators are a great, no-side effect solution to an issue that millions of women suffer from. My goal is to educate women that vibrators aren’t something to be embarrassed about — not only are they fun, but they also help women stay comfortable and happy during this sometimes uncomfortable stage in life.

How often do you recommend women use a vibrator for treatment?

I recommend my patients use a vibrator three to four times a week, but as Mae West said, “Too much of a good thing can be wonderful!” Also, I suggest patients use lubricants along with the vibrator since the body-safe product is made of medical-grade silicone.

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